Three days ago my husband left, it was supposed to be for work until he could afford to move me and the kids with him. What I have found out is that he has been seeing another woman since July. He flew out to see her in Aug (under the presumption of job interviews). Now he is with her. I just found out she flew here three days ago to accompany him back to Ga. I have over 1200 phone calls between the two of them, over 1000 txt messages and copies of their myspace messages.

He left me destitute and broke. We are losing our home as he has changed jobs and giving me no support. I was left with all the bills.

Our child together is 9. We live in Colorado. They are in Georgia. He calls his daughter daily but she is unaware of the situation.

I even told her up front when she first began to pursue him that he was married. We have been married for 11 yrs. Without any incidents like this.

Can I file abandoment for my household expenses? Can I sue her for the destruction of my marriage, infliction of emotional duress? If I can, what state/county must I file in?

What you can do is file for legal separation and child support. Are the bills in your name or his or both?

Also part of your case is going to revolve around all the evidence you have. How did you get it all ? And many states allow for you to sue under these circumstances. First and foremost you will need to get the ball rolling on your divorce and custody.

Before making any move, discuss this matter with your attorney. Get a pro bono if you can't afford one now. Experienced attorney could help with child support and alimony... you're entitled.

Ugh, I am so sorry to hear you're going through this.

He is responsible for 1/2 the bills. They were collected during your marriage so in no way are you responsible for ALL the bills. Technically, you're entitled to half of everything, as is he.

You need to file in your state of residence. I would file for divorce as soon as possible (if you have decided on this) and file for child custody as well. In the papers you must declare all of the bills that are due/that he left to insure they are accounted for and he will be made responsible for them.

As far as suing her, that will be INCREDIBLY difficult. Although you have proof, you may want to look into it, however that involves hiring a lawyer and going through a LOT of courtdates. I'm not saying to give up on it, but you need to think about what is best for you and your daughter right now. Although she definitely deserves to be sued, and I've heard of it being done, it is QUITE difficult to do... it all depends on the exact circumstances and your state laws.

I am not sure of the state you're in, however here's a link to a site that has State Laws in regards to divorce, maybe it will help you?

State Divorce Laws

Hang in there,
Pamela

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Warm Regards,
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Originally Posted by amanda699

Hey,

I can completely relate to your situation. I know how tough it is to deal with deception in a marriage or any relationship for that matter. I myself ended an 11 year marriage after I caught my husband with his mistress, an act I in my naivety could never have imagined..

These are painful losses, loss of trust is something that is hard to recover from, especially if it's your husband who's cheated you. I had found myself in severe depression after my incident and resorted to private therapists, counsellors and the whole lot but never really got anywhere.

It would definitely be worth it to visit WebWelfare Counselling Services -- Relationship Counselling, Confidence Counselling, Sex Advice, Troubled Marriages, Matrimonial Disorders, Dating Problems, Depression, Grief, Loss, Financial Problems, Child Abuse, Other Abuse, Rape Victims..

I think in my entire time of strife and trying to cope with my distress, it was the help of two private psychologists on this website that really motivated me to move past what had happened and be confident in myself again.

It's run by a lady called Catherine Trover and her group of colleagues who are all practicing psychologists and counsellors. I found them an invaluable source of comfort. In a time when I found no contentment in anyone's advice and 'pity' to be honest, I found these webwelfare counselling people so entirely different in the way they treated me and helped me through my distress, it was a wonderful experience.

All the best, keep strong.

Warm Regards,
Amanda

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