My husband's grandmother, with whom my childeren ages 13 and 8 were very close to just passed away after being ill for the past 3 months. My dilema is we were taking the children to the funeral but NOT the wake. Now, my husbands family is making us feel bad. They thought the children would be there. Know we are second quessing ourselves and think that maybe the 13 year old should go. What are your thoughts on this?

In my opinion I think the children both should go especially since they were close. If you don't allow them to go then they will remember that they never got to go. It will be like somewhat of a void to them later. You may think they are too young, but if they are young enough to know someone dies, they are old enough to go, it will also help them deal with death and understand it in a way.