Just wondering if anyone has got back with their ex after the NC rule and space?
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Just wondering if anyone has got back with their ex after the NC rule and space?
NC rule is used for healing not for getting ex back. I think it is safe to say this for the most of us, after nc we won't want our ex back. At first I tried using NC to get my ex back but I've only come to realized how horribly she treated me. Never contacted her since.
I am doing NC to give her time to think... I don't know anymore...
I read your other post. Its over bro. Move on and rebuild your life. Don't expect her to come back. She will if she loves you but by that time you will probably moved on already. Do NC for yourself, I know its really hard been there myself but she made a decision for herself and you should make one for you. Don't dwell about it anymore. Remember if you really love her, you would also be able to let her go and be happy even if its not with you.
I got mine back, but not through NC. Then it just fell apart again completely, went into NC, and I haven't looked back. You'll start to move on, slowly but surely.
Yah there is a reason why couples break up in the first place. Getting them back no matter how you do it will just have the same result.Quote:
Originally Posted by snow124
Yes about 3months later.. he broke up with me so I left moved on, I actually dated someone else. But he missed me and came back :)!
Oh what happened? O_O did you get back together with him?Quote:
Originally Posted by h0llister
How did you get them back? Ignore them?
You we have had a bad history ( a lot of lies from him) but he's changed... he really loves me and he shows it a lot now everyday he has university all day then work then homework and he always makes time to contact me now. (before he didnt) he has talked about wedding and stuff. So I decided to give him another chance.. and its going really good :) its been about 4months since we starting talking again and I'm going there for the summer!! :D!!Quote:
Originally Posted by none12345
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Originally Posted by ldanny
I did NO CONTACT for a month and he emailed me a few times and Facebook messaged me for about 2months and I finally answered because he never gave up.. and I figured he must really love me and regret the breakup and I actually told him I had met someone else during the time we broke up and he didn't care he still wanted me back.. you never know the future but always NC!! When needed lol!
Did he break up with you or did you break up with him? O_OQuote:
Originally Posted by h0llister
He broke up with me.. we used to fight a lot over everything but mostly I didn't feel like he cared because he never contacted me but he was so busy to do it.. but now we r OK.. he makes time for me :)Quote:
Originally Posted by none12345
how did you start no contact? Did you just drop out of the face of the earth? Lol that's what I did I feel kind of bad =PQuote:
Originally Posted by h0llister
Well we broke up in October and didn't talk for November and then he contacted me near the end of November and he was acting like a boyfriend but said we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend so after about 2weeks I told him enough its either were boyfriend or girlfriend or nothing cause I can't do the 'friend thing' and I told him he could think about it for awhile... a week passed no call no anything so I called him and he's like I need more time to think and pretty much I said you know when you love someone and want to be with them and a week is long enough to think about it so I already know your answer.. goodbye and he said goodbye as well... and you no contact after that
Yes I did.
We were having problems so we had space and after about a month of me not so much flirting with guys but not paying any attention to him and more attention to other guys he got jealous and realised that he was missing out on something. Show interest in a hobby and start doing something really good and look like you've moved on.
If you were in love. You still have hope of getting back together.
Show them what they will miss out on if they don't have you :)
These threads get old, and I do mean OLD, really quick. Why do we continue to limit ourselves to only thinking about one person? One opportunity... the same freaking thing we have had over and over again?? There is so much in life waiting for you, so much to do, see, touch, and experience, and limiting yourself to thinking and only caring about getting that one "ex" back is simply robbing yourself of a chance at true happiness in life... happiness that doesn't require your heart to get broken in the process. Sounds like a grand idea to me..
Carry on.. :cool:
I'll give you a quick, and I mean quick rundown of my story of why I came here to start. My ex broke up with me in December of 08, a week before Christmas to be exact, I tried everything to get her back but nothing worked. January 1st I went into NC mode(with help of this site), deleted EVERYTHING, myspace, phone numbers e-mail and IM addresses, and went 5 months without saying a word to her. She would send texts after about 2 months, asking how I was or talking to my friends about how I was doing. During this time, I had seen a few women, but nothing serious. I was focusing on myself, working out, getting to do things I couldn't while I was with her. In February, I met a girl and we immediately clicked, we started as friends and then started seeing each other and then seeing each other exclusively. She knew about my insecurities and how I was getting help on them. Her and I started dating in June, everything was going great! Then, my ex realizing I met someone new, started texting me wondering if things would change if we got back together, if I missed her and all that crap. I was happy, the girl I was seeing enjoyed the same type of stuff as me, which was a big thing I said to myself when I was looking for a girlfriend, she's into the History Channel, hockey, and MMA. I told my ex, I wasn't interested(she was with someone else) and she keeps trying to see if there's still hope, which there isn't. Life doesn't move backwards and neither was I going too. She is still trying to make advances to me, just through songs and my friends. I am now happily engaged and 10x better than I ever was when with her. My friends like my fiancé, they didn't like my ex. If I dropped my fiancé when my ex wanted me back, my ex and I wouldn't have worked out because I had already started a routine that I was in love with. I was working out every day, hanging with friends and watching MMA, which she hated. We are both better off with our lives separate rather than together.
You're on your way no looking back, there is no future living in the past bro
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