:( I have previously posted a question like this and am still confused as to what people think! I think deep down that he cares a lot about me but refuses to have sex with me :confused: he will sneek round and watch porn I have found stains on towels and underware when I confrot him he denies it and turns it on me saying that there is more to a relationshp than sex. I'm confused why choose porn when he has a loving good looking girlfriend who wants to please him!! I am starting to get very desperate is he trying to tell me something or is he just lazyyy??

Start leaving the evidence where he can find it, and he'll know you know. This is a sensitive subject, so educate yourself, so you will have the ammo to discuss this with him, As with anything that makes you feel good, it can become a problem, and he will need to address the problem.

Do you ever have sex with him? Perhaps he does not want to have sex in a relationship till much further into it.

Also a possible, porn is very addictive and many men find that they have trouble performing after too much masterbating in normal sex, also porn gives a man a poor opinon of women and sexual relationships

So if you can not talk about the issues at hand, then there are a lot of other issues beyond just having sex.

I had to rethink this, and will give you the same advice I would an alcoholics wife, and that is stop putting up with this behavior, leave if necessary. His excuses are not valid. That's what they are EXCUSES, to avoid responsibility, and blame someone else, for what he is not dealing with.