I've posted about this before, but here is a recap:
Dated/lived together for over a year. She felt she needed a break, moved out, asked me not to see other people as she wouldn't either. At X-mas time I catch her on a date. Things get ugly, she tells me to never contact her ever again.
Two months of no contact of any kind. Then I receive a refund check from her that I had sent her in the mail two months after I had sent it. Then after that I start to receive emails from her telling me that she wants me to be happy.
Here is where we are today and why I say what the heck is going on here? Last Sunday I needed to call her to pass along some mail that I received from her daughters school concerning her school loan. She was very chatty and it was actually a nice conversation. Then last Monday I get an email from her just shooting the day, I respond by saying "hi", then the next email I get about an hour later knocked my socks off, she is asking to borrow a large sum on money. Tells me that something just came up and needs it quick and can I help her out. When I don't respond in a timely manner I get another email asking me again. I respond that I don't think its best if I were to help. She asks me to come to her house that night after work so she can talk to me in person about this. I again tell her I don't think its best. So I get six more emails asking me to come over. So I give in just so I can get back to work.
So that night I go to her house, which felt very weird, and she tells me that she is getting ready to leave on a business trip and only has about 30 minutes. She tells me why she needs the money, and I tell her that I would love to help her, but just don't think I can trust her to pay me back. As I'm leaving she asks what my hurry is and do I want something to drink. She tells me I've got some good wine do you want a glass? So I take glass, and we play catch up. The first questions out of her mouth were, have you been dating, how many people have you dated, where did you meet them at and did you have sex with them? I told her that it really didn't have any bearing on things and I didn't feel the need to share. Her response was "this is what friends talk about". She tells me that she has dated four guys, but none were what she was looking for and that she has become very disillusioned about dating all together. I finish my glass of wine and start to leave so she can get to the airport to catch her flight. She asks what my hurry is and pours me another glass of wine. We talk some more, and then she starts asking about my house (the one she left). She asks about this old car that I'm restoring. She tells me that I should think about selling it so I can free up some space in the garage. When I asked her why I needed to free up some space in my garage when its just me, she just looked at me and smiled. We chat some more and she asks if I would mind is she streches her legs. I don't mind, but then she rests her feet in my lap. Then she begins the big flirt job. So as I'm finishing my third glass of wine she all the sudden tells me its time for me to leave. That I need to finish my glass and leave. By the way its now 8PM. So as I'm leaving she walks me out to my car and starts hugging me. She gives me three very long hugs between her house and my car.
When I get home about 15 minutes away, I get on the computer to check my email. Low and behold I have an email from her. She wrote/sent an email from the time I left unitl the time I got home. She hadn't sent me an email to my home email address in a year.
The next night I get a phone call from her. She tells me that she wants to talk to me before she falls a sleep. That she is on her trip and just wanted to hear my voice to make her feel better in her hotel room.
The next night I text messaged her concerning some plans we had made for Saturday night. Like I knew she would, she called me back and told me to hold off on making the reservations, since she was going to go visit her family this weekend.
The very next morning I get a call from her while I'm at work. She hasn't called me at work since last September.
Then Friday as I'm getting home from work she calls me and asks what my plans are for that night. I ask her why she wants to know. She asks if I would mind picking her up at the airport later that night since she will miss her commuter flight. Oh, and the airport where I'm picking her up at is two hours away. I tell her sure I'll pick you up. I need a nice road trip and could use the time to think about some things. She's like great, we can have a nice chat and do whatever on the way home. Then she calls me back not five minutes later and tells me to cancel that, things have changed and she'll call me later to explain, but I didn't need to pick her up. Then at 11PM Friday night she calls me back to tell me that she knew her commuter flight was going to be late and that she knew she would make it and thanks for offering to pick her up. I found her request to pick her up at the airport very interesting because when we were together I always offered to pick her at the airport when she was going to miss her commuter flight. Her response was always that it was stupid for me to drive that far just to pick her up and then drive home. She always stayed in a hotel then caught the first flight home the next morning. The next morning I sent her an email telling her that I was glad she was able to catch her flight and hoped she slept well being home again, and to have a great day. Then last night I sent her a text message on my way home from hanging with friends. I figure since she was calling me every day it was OK for me to contact her.
Today she calls and we talk and I tell her that since she is so interested in the house and what I've done to it since she left she should stop by and see it. After that statement she quickly gets off the phone. Then I get an email from her shortly after that telling me that I'm coming on to strong and need to back way off. That she still needs her time and space. That she doesn't want me or any man in her life at this time, that she doesn't want to hurt me, and that she feels somewhat sorry that she invited me over since I felt that gave me the need to stay in contact with her.
So what the heck is going on here? She all the sudden is asking me for favors and calling all the time and when I somewhat recepricate I'm pushing. Its not like I'm asking for a date or any type of commitment. I'm just treating her like another friend, I'm not trying to get back together. She was the one dropping all kinds of hints that she wanted to get something going again and wanted to be at the house. Any ideas of what is really happening?