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  • Nov 26, 2010, 11:59 AM
    sy2973
    I'm married and like to talk to other girls
    I'm married with a good and cute woman but I always like to talk with girls and have company with them espacially from outside(for example:european or asian girls) I don t think of sex but just to talk and feel that I'm wanted by another woman
  • Nov 26, 2010, 01:32 PM
    Curlyben
    Do you have a question ?
  • Nov 26, 2010, 01:49 PM
    jmjoseph

    I agree with Ben. What's your question? Point?

    And how does your wife feel about your flirting?
  • Nov 30, 2010, 06:36 AM
    sy2973
    Hey, my wife doesn't t know about that and that's make me feel guilty.
    So how can I come over this desire?
  • Nov 30, 2010, 06:41 AM
    Curlyben
    You mean the desire to talk to others?
  • Nov 30, 2010, 07:58 AM
    answerme_tender

    You are grown adult---If you are doing anything that makes YOU feel GUILTY then its time to simply STOP doing whatever your doing. Or tell your wife its okay for her to start talking to other guys (whatever ethnic group makes her feel more like a hot woman) because you completely understand the need to build your ego!! That way you don't have to feel guilty. Its really up to you!
  • Nov 30, 2010, 08:07 AM
    talaniman

    If you cannot be a honest, loyal husband and control your urges, and stay within the boundaries of good behavior, you have no business being married! Its one thing to have desires, its an entirely different thing to act on them. I highly suggest you discuss boundaries with you wife, before things cross th line, and you find yourself explaining your online/personal behavior. That's why you are married, to talk to her about your innermost desires, and feelings, and get things worked out in your minds what's best for you both.

    To give in to those desires impulsively, is a disaster waiting to happen.
  • Dec 2, 2010, 01:56 PM
    sy2973
    Thanks guys, I'm trying to do my best to follow your advices hoping that I can manage it.
    I think to make a help that fill my time by a hobby or any activity.
  • Dec 2, 2010, 02:10 PM
    NeedKarma
    I'm married and I like to talk to women too... and to men. Do you ONLY talk to women?
  • Dec 2, 2010, 03:20 PM
    DoulaLC

    It sounds like you may have some self-esteem concerns if you have the need to feel wanted by other women. There is nothing wrong feeling flattered when someone shows you attention, but purposely seeking the attention from other women is not appropriate when married.

    Maybe work at making any changes necessary to feel better about yourself, your marriage, and focus on spending more time and attention on that good, cute wife you have.

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