Confused about GF... need help
I had been dating my girlfriend for about 3 and half years. My girlfriend is extremely attractive and I started to notice how much attention she was receiving whenever we went out to the bars or even the mall. I became very insecure and jeoulous.. I started constantly asking her "Who was she talking to ?" "Did any guys hit on her?" Another reason I felt caused my insecurity was that fact that she just never really showed me much affection. She said it wasn't me its just how she is... Besides me being jealous and insecure our relationship was going really well... We always hung out, I went to her family dinners, we would laugh together, had inside jokes, etc... One thing I thought was weird with her was that she doesn't have any friends, the only friend she has is her mom and her cousin who is her age, so whenever we went out it would be my male friends her and her cousin. The past week and half she had been acting very strangely. She seemed to be more depressed, wasn’t talking as much, etc.. We had a little argument about a week ago and out of nowhere she tells me she wants some space, she feels like I'm suffocating her.. It hit me like a pound of bricks.. I was shocked.. I found out one of her co workers called her at 2 in the morning the day before we broke up.. Im not sure if that had anything to do with her decision or not.. after looking back I realize how selfish I was acting and how I was pushing her away with my insecurity... I feel very disappointed and embarrassed at myself for becoming too controlling. I really love her so much and she still tells me she loves me but she is still standing by her decision... I really don’t want to lose her.. I mentioned to her that I am getting help with my problems. Its just so hard after 3 years to just let someone go.. I feel that if she does give me a second chance that we can work things out.. I understand she needs her space and I want her to go out and meet friends but I'm scared she will find someone to replace me if she hasn't already... Ever since we have been broke up she has been going out and not coming home till late at night around 3 a.m.. . It feels like this break up isn't affecting her at all which hurts me even more... what should I do.. Is there anyway I can win her back? We haven’t talked in two days its driving me crazy... A few of my friends mentioned to give her her space for a week and not call then send lilys to her work with a card that says hope you have a good day... Do you think this is a good idea... If anyone can help me I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks