I need help and advice. What do I do?
Hi there. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 months now. He's 31 and I'm 21. He has 3 kids with a woman he was with and takes care of his kids. He also thinks he may have a kid with a woman he was with but he doesn't know for sure. While he does take care of the last 3 kids, he hasn't worked for 11 months now and hasn't been able to pay his child support. He got here to the states when he was 20. He doesn't know how to speak English and never went to school. He has worked as a waiter, busser, and as a stock boy. He says he wants to do something to change his life but I don't know and I don't think that'll happen. He's not much of an ambitious person or one that likes to prosper. Meanwhile, I'm only 21 and already have a bachelor's in chemistry and am attending dental school (in my first year). My parents have never met him because they don't accept him because they say he's good for nothing and that I'm so much better and that I've had to pay for his stuff since he hasn't worked for 11 months. Since the beginning, we've had a good relationships but we've had a minor problems because I'm very social yet jealous and he's not social. I've had to change the way I am to make the relationship work. In my school, I can never attend events because he won't let me ago alone and he won't come because he doesn't fit there (he doesn't even speak English). When I had to move away for dental school, he came and we lived together for 4 months. He didn't work (he promised he would) but did help me a lot with the house chores and would give me support sometimes. Sometimes he did like to get me all frustrated and angry. I've been the only girlfriend he's had that have met his kid's. I met them 1 month into our relationship. While we moved away, I even paid some of his child support and even gave his mom money because she's poor but she does work way too much. Idk what kind of future we have because I don't know if he's the man I would want to marry nor do I know if he would be a good dad to my children because to me it's very important my kids become professionals and he probably won't seminate that idea. It's just we see life differently. We went back to our home city and were there for 2 weeks. Then I came back and he was supposed to come the 11th but that changed a lot. Now he's supposedly coming for the 19th. So these last 3 weeks, we've had MANY problems and we almost broke up. The other thing is I've been really liking this guy at school for like 2 weeks now and I believe he may have something for me even though we've never spoken. I want to go out and party (responsibly and when I have time) and enjoy my youth. I can't do that because he doesn't like my friends so we never do anything fun with other people. I'm not sure how I feel about him, but I know I care about him and he's a good guy because he helps me out at home and doesn't have any vices. What should I do? I'm so confused. What do you think? Do I throw away these last 11 months to see what I can find and maybe this guy likes me? I'm scared of never finding anyone ever again that's compatible with me.