22-yr-old daughter who lives at home walks all over me
My daughter went to a 4-yr-college, failed (she would never show us her grades & dad never supported looking at them), and landed back home.
She now works and is beginning her hospital practicum for nursing.
We gave her a car, paid for everything (including trip cross country to visit BF) until she started to earn money. She has requested that her dad stop paying her credit card and has plans for going on her own, contingent w/BF status.
She always has, but still, seldom talks to me. If she happens to see me, she will be pleasant. If I initiate conversation, she snaps.
Husband has never disciplined her (mothers from mid school to high school told me she was "mean girl"). Dad never took my side--treats his mother better.
At wits end w/daughter I did everything for to make her happy. Bracing for her to cut me out. My husband will go along and never stand up for me.
Advice? Comment? (I sank a difficult career to be hands-on mother and now lost)