Comment on Aurora_Bell's post
We tried to find her. We hired a PI to find them. And that's when we did find her on 6/30/2011 that's when we found out about her drug habbit. Then came the court paper's a day later in the mail. So by that time she had already did what she did there was no way of knowing all this till we went to court on this Tuesday 7/12/2011
I might not know a lot about the law but as far as I understand it she can NOT give her up for adoption without my husbands signing over his rights witch he would never do!! I don't understand why the whole amount of 4,000.00 is all is to pay? Why is she not paying at least half? Can someone help me understand. Thank you
Comment on this8384's post
Yes he is the legal father but when the child was 6 months old she wrote him a letter saying she did not need or want his support in any shape or form in raising there child. That's why the court said no to court ordered support because she told him she did not want any help from him. Now things have changed it is not the mother of the child coming after my husband for child support it is the state of NY that is. Because who ever is adopting her has filed for cash help from the state of NY through social serviecs. And what we do not understand is why is the mother not paying half of the 4,000.00 why is it all on my husband to pay it? And how is his daughter up of adoption with out him even knowing it till the judge said something on Tuesday about it. There was a court case on the adoption back in march of 2011 and we had no clue about it. These are the questions we need the answer to. Thank you for you help
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Thank you. We are very very confused about the whole thing. I have called a lawyer and we are going to meet with them at 5 pm today. Because they are saying he should have been told about his daughter being placed up of adoption. And that the letter the mother wrote back in 2001 will hold up in court and he will not have to pay back the amount of $4,000.00 She will because she relieved him of any child support obligation when she signed that letter. Thank you for all you'r help.
Comment on ScottGem's post
Yes we are willing to adopt her that is my husbands daughter and my son's half sister. We never stopped paying the support the mother asked for back in 2006. We have all the money orders from when we started to pay her till just last Friday... But the last 20months of money orders have not been cashed or mailed. We tried to give them to the court yesterday but the court would not accept them because they are made out to the mother of the child & we can not cash them. And the mother of the child can not been found again. We will not pay for another PI to find her this time. We found his daughter and that's all we wanted to find. And as far as the letter the lawyer says it will stand up in court because it is all in her hand writing and her and my husband where not together at the time she wrote him the letter. It is in the words of the lawyer "closed case on support" thank you for the help