Silly question, but still please answer eh ;)
OK, you may all think I'm being overly worried about this situation, but that's just me eh ;)
Anyhow, here's the backstory... I'm a senior in university and for the longest time, obviously until recently, was in a longterm relationship (nearly 4 years), we began dating summer after HS, both at the same university. Before the ex and I got together I dated in HS but nothing ever serious or longterm, so I'm very new to the whole breakup concept.
Last March, we broke up for mutual reasons, we were not the same people as we were when we began dating, I think most of that had to do with natural maturation changes that happens to people at our age, and we began arguing and getting in pointless fights that always ended after a couple hours. However, one day another pointless fight happened and somehow we both knew that would be the one to end it. During the breakup she broke out the line, 'I'm never happy with myself, and I've lost all self confidence, I just need to make myself happy right now, but I still want to be with you.' Instantly I knew that was a load of BS, so I let her be and lo and behold aprox. 3 weeks later she's started dating her roommates friend from class.
Now, that quick turnaround on her part really bothered me. Not necessarily because I wasn't over her, I've always been the person that makes friends with extreme ease and have had no problems meeting new girls myself, and have been on plenty of dates with others... I truly believe I am over her. This is where my confusion begins, after not seeing/speaking to her until mid July and now only like once a month or if we bump into each other on campus randomly, I'm ready to let it go and want to be her friend (I don't want it to be where we never speak again after having the history we had and seeing as we were fgriends before we got together). However, she is still very negative towards me and acts angry. Whenever I ask her why, or how come she can't just be chill about it she says, 'I'm just not ready to be friends, I'm sorry, and I wish I was, I want to be, butright know I can't, I don't know why and I can't give you a reason why I'm still upset and am always angry.'
After having discussed this with my female friends, most of them (but not all) say the reason she's angry and can't tell me why is that she's not over me, and her being angry is the easiest way to not deal with what she's feeling. I guess my question is, does that seem logical to you all, is she not over me, or is she just that angry, because I figured by now she should be at least able to tell me eh? I only care because I got a fantastic job offer when I graduate in Dec that requires me moving and I know if we're not talking by then I never will talk to her again, which is upsetting as I would like to be on a friendly basis with her. Thanks in advance everyone and this was EXTREEMLY long I know, SORRY! ;)