I met this guy in one of my college classes 4 months ago. We went out a few times, and he’s been to my apartment several times to work on a class project. I’ve had a crush on him since I met him. We talk online all the time. I never let him know I liked him until I found out one night that he was attracted to me. He had told me that I looked nice the night we went out. I never thought that he was in to me, and was very excited to find that he liked me like that. Last Saturday, we went out drinking. He was all over me…or we were all over each other, and I took him home with me. I saw him again a few days later to do some school work. We ended up drinking at my place and having sex again. When I gave him a ride home from class on Friday night he was asking me what I was doing on Saturday. He seemed interested, so I tried to get a hold of him on Saturday and he blew me off. I wanted to see him very badly, and immediately started jumping to conclusions. I was confused…getting mixed signals. One weekend he wants me, the next weekend he wants nothing to do with me. I wonder if I gave it up too soon. I just thought we were both on the same page. I emailed him the next day (Sunday) telling him that I was confused by his mixed signals. He said that I was “freaking out.” And he also said, “I think it is safe to say that getting drunk and having sex once, more over twice, is out of character for me. For that I apologize if I am giving off the wrong signals.” Basically, what I got from that is…it was just a “fling.” I got him drunk and seduced him, and that he normally doesn’t do things like that. Well, I told him that I just need clarification, which he gave me. I saw him again tonight, because he had to borrow some books for the new semester. He seems like he still wants to be friends. I think I scared him away, but since he wants to be friends…I hope there is still a chance I could gain his interest again. I wish there was a manual on how to keep a guy interested and keep from scaring him away. Can anyone help? I still want this guy, probably because the rejection has possibly made me want him even more?
He's talking to me again... online... so that's a good sign. I'm going to try not to make myself available all the time, and hopefully he'll become interested more.