I'll start with a few details about me; I don't like most people, and the ones I do like usually bore me after 5 minutes or so.
I met a lesbian at 15, and we meshed perfectly, so 6 years later we entered into an open marriage.
Then I met him. He's my wife's co-worker, and she brought him home one night to hang out. We hit it off immediately; we think about things in the same way, but are so very different. We mostly focus on religion and spirituality, and the topic often moves on to love sex and passion. He definitely describes himself as straight.
We've know each for a few months now, and every weekend we get together to share a bottle of wine or two and talk for hours (12 hours of talking last Sunday).
One thing he mentioned in the middle is that he doesn't like people who are pushovers; he likes people to tell him what they want and what to do. Not demanding, just assertive. He finds it hot when someone can make the decisions. This happened right after I left a decision up to him. It was like he was guiding me on how to get him.
So, right before my wife gets home, he mentions how he doesn't find men sexually attractive but he gets it and can look at a man, especially one he loves, and think they're beautiful. He thinks honesty is attractive, and that he would prefer a guy to admit that they found him attractive. So I did, and he smiled shyly and thanked me.
He went on to say that while he wouldn't want a guy to suddenly lean over and start giving him oral, he loves to be touched and wouldn't mind having his scalp rubbed and hair played with.
My wife came home and turned on the TV, so the moment passed. He kept looking at me a lot, though.
What do I do? Should I go for it next time? And if so, how long do I wait to make my move? I'd think right away would be creepy, but I don't want to miss my chance.
When do I know it's safe to make the next move, and what should it be? With gay guys it is easy because they make moves to, but I imagine he will just leave it up to me.
Please note, I'm not try to get in his pants. All I want is to hold his hand, hold and cuddle him, massage his damaged back and sore feet, and maybe even sleep next to him. If he asked for sex, I'd give it to him without wanting reciprocation, but I don't want to push it in that direction.
I should also add that he is 19 and I am 25, if it matters.