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  • Oct 20, 2015, 02:34 PM
    garboozle
    What age to move out of parent's house?.
    I'm wondering what the typical age is folks move out of their parents house.. I'm 26 and due to a really crummy family life and mother who causes all sorts of problems I HAVE to move out.. Not because they're making me but because I can't take it anymore.. As badly as I want to live independently the thought of it scares the hell out of me.. I have only 10 grand saved up, no credit, no schooling other than HS, and a job (full time thankfully) that only pays 12.70$.. So I'm in rough shape and I'm really scared here.. All advice is welcomed.
  • Oct 20, 2015, 03:21 PM
    CravenMorhead
    Most people move out in their late teens or early 20s. I was out of my house at 23, my wife earlier. It is up to you and your parents.

    Given that you've got stable income, and savings, what are your long term plans? How do you go to making more then you are? What you need to do is make a plan. If you can do that, then you're good.
  • Oct 20, 2015, 04:13 PM
    smoothy
    I moved a couple weeks after I graduated college. I had to because the place that hired me in College was a 4 hour drive away. Was it rough? Heck yeah. No money...low starting wages...and a mountain of student loans to pay back. But you learn quickly to live within your means, work harder and look for opportunities to fine better jobs. Expect to have to have roomates for a number of years. Having your own place is a pipe dream until you make decent wages.
  • Oct 20, 2015, 04:50 PM
    talaniman
    You move when you are ready. There is no best age.
  • Oct 20, 2015, 04:55 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Find a roommate if you can't do it on your own. You've got a job and some savings, so find a place you can afford.
  • Oct 21, 2015, 12:08 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Depends on where you are at. Here in China they may move out at 30 or at such time as they get married. (unless they are the boy and may move the girl into parents house)

    In the US, most move out about 23 or so. Really they move out when they go away to college and may move back for a short period, but not long.

    I would assume you have no real bills at this time, and own a car ?
    You consider finding a roommate and share a apartment with.

    Or you may consider looking at some new education to give you options for a better job.
  • Oct 21, 2015, 04:00 PM
    Alty
    I moved out when I got married at 24. Until then I saved money so that my husband and I could afford to by a house instead of rent when we moved in together. That was the only reason I stayed at home.

    At 26 you should be ready to move out, especially if your home life with your parents is as bad as you say.

    Look for a place that you can rent and have room mates, or even look into buying a place and getting room mates to help pay the mortgage, but make sure if you do that that you can afford the mortgage without help, just in case things don't work out with the room mates.

    Make a list of your monthly expenses, car, insurance, health care, food, rent/mortgage, gas, electric, heat, water, garbage disposal, cell phone. It all adds up. What can you afford to spend on a place to live? That's where you should start.

    Good luck.
  • Oct 24, 2015, 09:54 AM
    Jake2008
    I think that you are ready.

    The objections you put forward, are all easily overcome. You could get a room mate, you could work two jobs, you could rent a room in a home instead of flat out renting an apartment.

    But, maybe, as bad as your home life is, as you say, maybe the fact that you've managed to save so much money, and could likely save so much more, indicates that you have a pretty easy life to start with such a cushion.

    Have you considered going to college/university? Maybe taking night courses, or enrolling in a certificate program which is shorter, and might be a stepping stone to further studies? I'm thinking of personal support workers, and similar occupations.

    I think that you are holding yourself back, from some pretty obvious choices you could easily make to be on your own.

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