BF was with a prostitute in Amsterdam before we met
I recently found out that my boyfriend of a little over a year visited a prostitute for his 21st birthday in the Red Light Disctrict of Amsterdam while he was studying abroad in London (7 yrs ago). He said it was just oral (which I don't believe). He was laughing when he told me, but not in the "I'm joking way", he just didn't think it was that big a deal.
I'm HORRIFIED. This absolutely blows my mind. He's one of those over-achiever investment bankers, extremely attractive and social. I never in a million years would have thought he would tell me this. Now I can't even look at him, so disgusted am I with this information. He joked that he was stoned and drunk (Amsterdam, 21st birthday... ), but I still can't fathom someone doing something like this. I cried the entire day after he told me, because I feel like he's a totally different person to me now.
Another issue this has created is with his roommate. She's Russian and a former model. No one's really sure where her money comes from, and we all joke that she's a stripper "or worse" (there's also an issue about whether she was a mail-order bride because she either was or is married at 23 but has nothing at all to do with her "husband" now). She's been late with rent twice, her check just bounced again this month and he recently caught her smoking in the apartment yet he's maked no effort to evict her. I never really gave it much thought before, but knowing now what I do, I feel like they've probably been sleeping together for the entire 8 months she's been there as "payment"
Before all of this, I felt so deeply in love. We talked about a future together, and he's been adamant about our families meeting soon. He's been so supportive and doting, he genuinely treats me better and more thoughtfully than just about anyone I've ever known. Is this something I could possibly get over/should get over or is it time to move on?