I have read a lot about the divorced parents for the Bride. What about the proper etiquette for the grooms divorced parents who don't care for each other? The father and stepmother of the groom are out of the loop. Their daughter together is in the wedding, so any information is coming from her. We hear that the grooms mother and stepfather have given $1000 and know someone who can do the wedding invitations. The brides mother and stepfather are taking care of the dress and reception. We would like to contribute, but have mixed feeling, because our relationship seems to be a distant one. As in they live 10 minutes from us, but yet never stop or always have an excuse. About the only time we see them is for the holidays. We don't want to be cheap, but any money given means we have to adjust our funds to make up the difference. I guess we'd feel different if we had a better relationship with our son/stepson. Any words of wisdom would be helpful.. we are torn.