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he said he felt pressured and forced to move out of his moms house while we were engaged. It seems like nothing has ever been "natural" with us it's always me complaining about why he couldn't move in if we were engaged 33 and 35 year old adults. I broke up with him around that time 4 years ago because of the same reason how he didn't move in and he begged me to take him back that he'd move in and we would be okay and he loved me so much that's been the pattern I complain and complain and complain then things happen. And I'm just so tired of it. I complain for things that SHOULD be natural that he says he wants but then says I force him. I told him if he felt forced why did we get this far he should've left me a long time ago
I could be wrong but my impression is you are driven and demanding, which is a great thing with a guy who can handle you, but the skwuch you decided to marry is overwhelmed and helpless. If you don't have a few years to see if he can catch up then of course a divorce is sure to happen. You don't even seem compatible and no wonder the natural bonding process doesn't seem to work. I doubt if you ever properly communicated.