Relocated without custody, but had an agreement with his father
Let me start by saying that my situation is fairly unique. I had my oldest son when I was 14 years old, and his father was 16. I took full responsibility, and raised my son who is now 7. My sons father and I never married, and he does pay child support, but we never discussed custody, Due to the fact I had my son 6 nights a week and I never obligated him to come see his son. When he turned 4 I started making my ex pay child support, after he requested a paternity test. To continue on... I am married now, and have another son who is 2. My husband is in the navy and we were relocated from Pennsylvania where my ex lives to Virginia Beach last April. My ex threatened to call the cops if I left, but after a month of negotiating we decided my son would stay there for the remainder of the school year at which point I would drive the 9 hours to pick him up. When we came to this agreement he had me sign a paper that stated I would come back next year in 2009. I signed the paper in good faith that he would see a 9 hour drive isn't that far, and I would never stop him from coming to see his son, I even offered for him and his fiancé to come down for a week and stay with me. Since April I have visited PA 4 times and he refuses to spend the money to come here to visit. My question is... Niether of us have custody, do you think that I will have a problem getting custody, and if that paper I signed has any significance? I do not think its in his best interest to be away from his mother who has had him since the day he was born. And for me to move away from my husband and leave my 2 yr old son without his father. Any advice would be appreciated.