I am a mother of three and have a full time job. My husband makes more than three times what I earn. He travels a lot, and I remain with our thee kids all the time. Once he pays the rent and one or two bills I have to find ways to get our food and groceries... my salary barely covers this and hence am in debt. Sometimes he does get the food and groceries too. Having handled the bigger expenses like school bills and rent he then decides how he will spend whatever he is left with. I have no chance to decide how to spend my money because I know it definitely has to meet household needs. At first he used to get less but having developed himself he now earns more. I have had chances to develop myself but I decided to concentrate on our kids first. Now I want to develop my carrier but I barely have money to spare for that. He keeps asking me why I haven't bought that or this and that makes me think he doesn't understand that I am living broke.I haven't discussed all this with him because I feel like he will blame me for my low income and dependence on him, our communication is already very poor and I feel like he disapproves of everything I do including any ideas I have, I feel like he tolerates me and endures me. I feel like he doesn't believe in me. I think he is ignorant of my financial situation and I want to tell him about how I am struggling and the debt I am incurring. I don't want to be a burden to him but I think I may have to admit that I am.how can I discuss this issue with him , and how can I improve my finances.
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