We don't see eye to eye on anything!
My husband and I have been married for 9 years. We have 3 children (my oldest is from a previous marriage). About 2 years ago, my husband and I started having major problems, most of which unfortunately stemmed from us using crystal meth. We have since gotten off the drugs, but the problems are still here. We have been to marriage counseling already. One of the main problems is that we have completely different views about any situation that comes up. If I want to go out with friends, he has a problem with it. If I talk or text on my phone, he gets upset. He is smothering me to death. He says that he wants to be a part of every aspect of my life. He doesn't understand that "girls night out" is exactly that... "girls night out"! No husbands, significant others, etc. allowed. He automatically thinks that I am out doing something to hurt him. I will admit that during our drug use I did some things that I shouldn't have (never physically cheated on him), but how long am I going to have to pay for my past? I find myself pulling away from him more and more because of his insecurities and his neediness. He tells me that I am the cause for him feeling this way. I know that the things I put him through in the past made him feel this way, but we have both changed now. I am not doing those same things anymore. I feel like he is slowly taking everything that I enjoy away from me. I don't know how to make him feel any different about me, but I can't go on with him constantly suspecting, accusing, and snooping around on me. Please help.