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  • Dec 17, 2009, 08:44 PM
    kayasmommy4109

    The ultrasound may be off my daughter could have been due by the size the dr said her head was on march 8th and they said on march 28th she was 9 1/2 and she was born on April 1 2009 at 7 lbs 15oz and a normal sized head for a baby born at full term she didn't have a huge head like the doctors made me fear! So you can give them around a 2weeks at the most
  • Dec 19, 2009, 12:18 PM
    cllockhart

    Okay, good! I was just making sure because the doctor put the date of my conception on a date I was in the hospital having surgery! Haha... I obviously know that it was not possible to conceive this day! I am 100% positive that the only time that I could have conceived was Halloween, which was about 2 weeks after my surgery. I guess I was just nervous because I had heard that a dr. thinking you are farther along than you are could be a sign of twins, and while I would love twins someday, right now would not be the best time for that since I have just come around to the idea of having one baby!
  • Jan 1, 2010, 01:45 PM
    cllockhart

    Okay, new question. I am now around 10 weeks pregnant and I have had some symptoms: breast tenderness and growth, nausea, and fatigue. Even with these symptoms I still don't feel like I'm pregnant. Is this normal? I feel like I should feel like I'm pregnant. Why don't I yet and if it is normal, when should I feel like I am actually pregnant? I am really excited for this baby so I want to be able to feel like I have him or her growing inside of me.
  • Jan 1, 2010, 01:47 PM
    J_9
    This is very common. You will actually feel pregnant when you start showing and also again when you start feeling movements.
  • Jan 1, 2010, 01:55 PM
    cllockhart

    Okay, good. I am very glad to hear this. I was starting to get nervous that something was wrong, even though I have had no sign of a miscarriage. I have always just heard about women feeling pregnant. I also wanted to make sure that there is nothing psychologically wrong with me.
  • Jan 1, 2010, 02:04 PM
    J_9
    Perfectly normal hun!
  • Jan 1, 2010, 02:41 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cllockhart View Post
    Okay, new question. I am now around 10 weeks pregnant and I have had some symptoms: breast tenderness and growth, nausea, and fatigue. Even with these symptoms I still don't feel like I'm pregnant. Is this normal? I feel like I should feel like I'm pregnant. Why don't I yet and if it is normal, when should I feel like I am actually pregnant? I am really excited for this baby so I want to be able to feel like I have him or her growing inside of me.

    You'll feel him/her soon enough, trust me.

    The first pregnancy is always so uncertain. You want to look pregnant, feel pregnant, feel the baby, hear the heartbeat. You can't wait to get to each new stage. These things take time though.

    The first miracle is usually being able to hear your baby's heartbeat at a doctors appointment. It sounds like a little train and it's the most beautiful sound ever. This usually happens no later then 12 weeks.

    Then your waist starts to expand. You still look more fat then pregnant, but that will soon change.

    Then there's the first flutter. It feels like a butterfly kiss (you know, someone brushes their eyelashes against your cheek) inside your tummy. You think, "is this gas?" but no, it's the baby.

    Before you know it those little butterfly kisses turn to kicks. There are times when your belly will look like a scene from the movie "Aliens". You'll wonder if you have a demon child in there. ;)

    Each stage is wonderful and amazing. Enjoy it. Enjoy the pregnancy. If something is going to happen it will happen no matter what you do. So take care of yourself, your body, your mental health and just relax and enjoy.

    That's an order by the way. ;)
  • Jan 3, 2010, 05:07 AM
    sboresow
    Grow up. Put aside your emotional drama and start addressing your situation logically. What is in your child's best interest? Do you think you are one of those "Super Moms" that can do anything? You know, have a job, go to school, have relationships, make a baby, raise a baby, have a career and be great at all of them? Talk to your parents NOW and give your baby up for adoption. You and many others in your situation are too immature, have no financial resources to raise a child, and are not focused on what is best for the baby.
  • Jan 3, 2010, 06:57 AM
    cowgirly

    sboresow,

    She has already told her parents, has already decided to keep the baby, and is very happy and excited, did you read all the posts??
  • Jan 3, 2010, 08:24 PM
    cllockhart

    Thanks Cowgirly and Altenweg for your support on this! I saw sboresow's post before you posted and it was very disheartening to me. I got very upset with this comment (which could be due to the major hormones running through me). It made me rethink all the decisions I have made. I am really happy to have others stick up for me! I know I have made the right choice and I am 100% sure I can handle this HUGE responsibility. I have the financial and emotional support from my parents for the time being. As soon as I can handle the financial situation on my own I will do it. I also have a boyfriend who loves me and cares about me very much! I have what I need to raise a baby, while it may not be the most ideal situation ever, I know I can do it! :-)
  • Jan 4, 2010, 07:51 AM
    cowgirly

    Good for you!!
  • Jan 10, 2010, 04:13 PM
    cllockhart

    New question! As you can tell this is all very new to me! I have never had acne before my pregnancy but now I am breaking out very badly. I know that I am not supposed to use acne face washes or certain other face washes. I was just wondering what is the best and safest face wash/scrub that I can use. I just bought clean and clear morning burst in-shower facial. I just want to make sure that it is safe to use before I start using it. If anyone has any info about this or knows something better I can use please let me know! Thanks in advance!
  • Jan 24, 2010, 01:50 PM
    cllockhart

    I have a question about my due date/how many weeks pregnant I am. I have the book What to Expect, which I have been reading a lot. It states that pregnancy technically starts the first day of you last period. The first day of my last period was October 18, 2009. So that would put me at 15 weeks today. My doctor did an ultrasound last month and the readings on it show that I am 13 weeks, 2 days. I know it doesn't matter too much but I am just curious which one it is. My boyfriends parents live on the other side of the country so they are trying at this time to get plane tickets to be here for the birth which will take place in July. My doctor says my due date is July 30, 2010, but from what my book says it is July 18, 2010. This could make a big difference when it comes to them getting tickets. They were planning on getting one way tickets a week before my due date and staying till after I have the baby. I just don't want them to get them for July 24 and them miss out on me having the baby.

    Any ideas about this would be greatly appreciated. (P.S. - I am really excited to learn the sex as soon as possible)
  • Jan 24, 2010, 02:02 PM
    Alty

    There's really no way to know for sure.

    The unofficial rule is that45% of babies are born in the 2 week span before their due date, 45% are born in the 2 week span after the due date and 10% are born on the due date.

    The only way to pinpoint your due date a bit better would be to know when you ovulated and go by that date. Still, gestation for some is longer or shorter then others.

    I would go by the ultrasound. They measure the baby, take note of changes that would indicate gestational age. At this point in your pregnancy your baby is changing weekly, so their guess of 13 weeks is probably pretty accurate. Still, your baby could come early or late.

    I would wait a while before telling your boyfriends parents the date they should come. You will most likely be having another ultrasound sometimes during your pregnancy, most times (at least in Canada) they do an ultrasound at around 6 months. They should be able to give you a more accurate reading of age at that time. Still, like I said, gestational age and date of delivery, it's impossible to pinpoint the exact day, even your doctor can't tell you when with 100% accuracy.

    My son was 4 days late (which is not bad) and my daughter was a fluke, she was born on her due date.

    I've had many friends that are pregnant 2 weeks after their due date but because of ultrasounds and non-stress tests, they aren't induced because the due date was most likely off.

    Your doctor can explain this a lot better then I can. ;)
  • Jan 24, 2010, 02:10 PM
    J_9
    Your due date will be what the doctor has told you, not what the book says.

    Even so, as Alty has mentioned, babies come when babies are ready. It may be 2 weeks or more early or late (but we don't let you go past 41 weeks gestation).

    It's best right now to wait for them to get their plane tickets. It's still early in your pregnancy. Wait until you are at least 20 weeks, then the doctor can induce you. OR they can come when you get home from the hospital.
  • Jan 24, 2010, 03:08 PM
    cllockhart

    Thanks for the answers. I have already been told that I would get a second ultrasound around 20 weeks. I just wasn't sure because when I had my first one done I was 7 weeks and 5 days and the baby was so small the ultrasound was done intra-vaginally so I wasn't sure if this reading would have shown the baby to be smaller than it was since it was so early on. We are just worried about finding the cheapest plane tickets for them. They are not so thrilled about this in the first place and I just want them to be here and not just decide to skip out if they miss the birth. We are trying to get them to plan their vacations around this because they want to go on like 3 vacations over the summer not including the birth of their grandchild. His parents have taken this news much worse than my parents. They are very unhappy about it an disappointed.
    On my part I don't want them to miss out on this event because I feel if they do, they won't want to be involved in the babies life at all, and I don't want that for my child. I want my child to have 2 sets of loving grandparents.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 01:44 AM
    TrayRenee

    Look, I understand your worry & frustration. Really I do !
    I am 16 years old & 4 weeks pregnant.
    I am no longer in high school but trying to obtain a GED.
    I had my whole future planned out, Marine bound ;; everything was planned. & then BAM! Like a ton of bricks - Me & the father are stunned.
    But after debate we decided we got ourselves into this mess, & it is NOT our life to take, Please don't let abortion be in your options at all - After 18days that little one has a heart beat, making it legally a human life, Being your 5 weeks - I can promise you, There is a little heart in there :]
    I know it is scary, Trust me ! I am a baby having a baby !
    I NEVER in my wildest dreams expected this one, But I had to sit down & think to myself I will never be able to live with myself if I let MY baby go - Could you if you let YOUR little bundle go?
    Everything will work out. This happened for a reason, & maybe right now the reason is on clear but I can assure you, You were blessed wif that little one for some good reason. Don't let that reason be a waste.
    Take care of yourself & that baby ;;
    EVERYTHING will work out in DUE TIME.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 03:22 AM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by TrayRenee View Post
    I am 16 years old & 4 weeks pregnant.

    I thought you just missed your period.


    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens...ob-440113.html

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by TrayRenee View Post
    I know I could be pregnant

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by TrayRenee View Post
    Does it sound like I'm pregnant ? Are these early stage pregnancy symptoms ?

    How do you go from not being sure you are pregnant to being 4 weeks pregnant all in the span of a couple of hours?

    Also, had you read the entire thread, which you did not, you would know that the OP is keeping this baby.
  • Feb 15, 2010, 05:18 AM
    cllockhart

    I have a kind of emergent question. I am now 16 weeks 3 days and last night before bed I fell down a flight of stairs that had 10 stairs on it. (It was Valentine's Day and I was wearing pantyhose on a wood floor in front of the stairs, naturally I would take a tumble.) It was around midnight and I was absolutely exhausted and felt completely fine, so I decided to just go to bed. This morning aside from being obviously a little sore from the fall, I am also nauseous and a bit light headed. I seem to be completely out of the nauseated stage of this pregnancy so I don't know if morning sickness has just hit back up again, the food I ate last night isn't sitting with me right, or it has something to do with the fall. I am just a little worried about it.

    Also, just so everyone knows, when I fell, I fell on my back not my stomach. I also hit my head pretty hard at the bottom of the landing when I fell. I did however fall head over heels, but I don't believe I hit my belly at all. I have my monthly appointment tomorrow anyway, so I didn't know if I should wait till then to be seen or if I should be seen right away. Any advice as quickly as possible would be really appreciated.
  • Feb 15, 2010, 06:00 AM
    redhed35

    Hey cllockhart,I hope you got seen to and that everything is OK with you and the baby.

    Anytime you have a bad fall.pregnant or not its always best to get checked out.

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