I am a very careful when it comes to sex, in fact I am still a virgin. However, I messed around and gave a guy a handjob and he precummed as I felt the liquid. Afterwards he touched himself and fingered me. It happened so fast like I had no control over it and I regret it. But we had no sex. Can I get pregnant this way? Any suggestions on what I should do please? I am shaking all day with fear

Simple answer... yes you can.

All you can do at this point is wait and see... if you have your next period when its due.. you are OK.

The odds aren't high, but they are far from being zero.

Saying you can, and saying you will are two different things.

When should I tell the guy? :(

Smoothy is correct. Now you play the waiting game.

I certainly wouldn't let any guy do this to me again if I'm not wanting to be called Mommy.

You'll tell him he's going to be a father when you know you're going to be a mother.

And, yes, this is sex.

What do you mean, when should you tell the guy? Tell him you are still waiting to find out, that is entirely up to you.

Yes I agree with smoothly, the conditions were right, and you can get pregnant from prcum

This may sound cruel.. but I'd tell him he might be a dady and let him worry now too... just like you are.

Because he needs to learn his lesson too. He needs to lose some sleep like you will be.

Is there something I can do to make sure I don't get pregnant? Omg I am going to die :( I didn't have actual sex and this happened so fast I regret it :(

Well, you learned you don't HAVE to have penetration to get pregnant. Your hand or his hand will transport what it takes from him to you.

Incidentally... you did have actual sex with him... what you did not do is have intercourse with him. Masturbation IS still sex if you do it yourself or to each other. Sex is a fairly broad term in meaning.

If you want safe... you can't do it at all with each other. Otherwise there will be a risk... how much of a risk depends on exactly what precautions are taken and how strictly... and it seems like neither of you are well enough educated in human reproduction to understand HOW it can happen. Its not what you do know that gets you into trouble... its what you don't know.

It only takes ONE microscopic sperm of the millions he produces to make it to your uterus and fertilize the egg.

Some people try for decades without success... others have it happen the first time.

They never taught us that :( I was planning not to have sex with anybody in fact I was in a long relationship before and never had sex. I didn't know about this until it happened :(

The odds are you will be OK this time... but its still statistically possible you might not.

The more you know about something the better you are knowing it. Lots of people end up parents because "they didn't know". And this is in places where they actually DO teach these things like where I am.

Do you now know what sex is? It includes masturbation, mutual masturbation, intercourse... and more.

Spread the word.

Better start reading girl !

Yes I know now! Thanks all for your response. I promised myself that I will NEVER let this happen again until I am married :( However, is it possible to go to a clinic and they clean me or something like that like when rape happens? :(

Let's practice doing research. Google your question about rape and let us know what you find out.

I'm sorry but this is not funny. I don't think that you never made a mistake in your life

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I'm sorry but this is not funny. I don't think that you never made a mistake in your life

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I am so totally serious. And yes, I've made mistakes, but I was a virgin on my wedding night and hadn't played around with sex when I dated. So in that way, I didn't make any mistakes.

The Internet is full of good advice. Humans in real-life and on Q&A sites won't always be available, especially when you're alone with a guy. Read library books on sex (312.6 is the Dewey number) and Google when you have a question about it. You MUST be your own best advocate.

My bad then because I thought that let's practice some research was sarcastic. I didn't find anything, do you know? :(

I suggested research (and becoming your own teacher and advocate) because I am a retired librarian, former teacher, and professional counselor.

At the top of the page in a quick Google search --

Abortion

I didn't mean abortion. When they use spermicide to clean a girl after rape before the baby forms I mean!

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I didn't mean abortion. When they use spermicide to clean a girl after rape before the baby forms i mean!

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That's abortion. After rape, the assumption can be made that conception has occurred. (Conception: A baby begins to form the minute the sperm and the egg meet.) If you read the link, reread the medical abortion section.

Read this site too:

Morning-after pill