Wondergirl: I'll write this here cause I'm being considerate, but I have to wonder what you meant by that comment. I don't believe I need someone to tell me what's wrong with me. I already generally know. When people tell me something I already concluded, I lose interest. It's the way my personality is and It's likely not to change. I'm just a girl that knows herself well and as such, points out the facts about myself I know some won't understand or get along with.
Sorry if I sound rude. Apparently some people don't always get it when I'm just being blunt and truthful. I don't always like to move around the bush.
Yes, I do know what CBT is and how it works.

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Wondergirl: I'll write this here cause I'm being considerate, but I have to wonder what you meant by that comment. I don't believe I need someone to tell me what's wrong with me.

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First, thank you for using the Answer box. That makes it so much easier for me to respond to you.

Why on earth do you think my suggesting a counselor is so you can be told what's wrong with you? How did you ever get that notion?? That's not how it works!

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Yes, I do know what CBT is and how it works.

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In light of what you said above, I find it hard to believe you really understand CBT. Please tell me.

Well I'll be darned, I think you might have just gone in upped me there but wait, Here, where I live, calling anyone old anything, is rude. But that wasn't why I thought it was your response was useless. It didn't answer what she asked. She never said she was trying to control her sons life, she said she didn't like the girlfriend cause she was being disrespectful to her families beliefs. If you have a child that is dating someone disrespectful to you and your family, would you what that person around your family. Uh, no.

Sure, it's best not to try and impose yourself upon your kids and telling what they should do in their lifes but you have to let them know how you feel about it. If you see that this is really a racist, prejudiced, or mean person, will you not say anything because you kid is grown and know there own person? No. Your advice is good for overbearing, don't have a life moms. From what I read, she was not. Just concerned about what she believes may not turn out to be a positive relationship for her son or her family.
Now, as far as the old cocker comment goes, will I guess I'm sorry. Kind of. Misinterpreted what you wrote and confused it with something else. My bad. I can admit that, but it doesn't change my opinion.

In light of what you said above, I find it hard to believe you really understand CBT. Please tell me.Maybe I'm wrong but I do believe it is to help me understand why I think and behave a certain way emotionally. To help me solve certain problems that I myself am have troubles reaching through, etc, etc. through talking, certain activities or tests. Like why I have feel uncomfortable around intimacy and stuff. It's therapy, basically.

Maybe I was wrong, maybe I wasn't, but in then end, I ask people to please be adults and get over it. One negative rating is not going to stop people from taking your advice. I saw your advice and interpreted it as not helpful. She, on the other had, may think otherwise. Whatever. Rotten tomato/ Dinner.

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WG: In light of what you said above, I find it hard to believe you really understand CBT. Please tell me.

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Maybe I'm wrong but I do believe it is to help me understand why I think and behave a certain way emotionally. To help me solve certain problems that I myself am have troubles reaching through, etc, etc. through talking, certain activities or tests. Like why I have feel uncomfortable around intimacy and stuff. It's therapy, basically.

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It can be used like that. Yeah, that would be the therapeutic version. It can also be used in much more creative ways, ways that will help you much more concretely accomplish your goals. But then, you've never really told me (yet) what your goals are.

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help me understand why I think and behave a certain way emotionally.

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Actually, no, that's not what CBT is or does. "Why" isn't part of it; "how" is.