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  • May 17, 2010, 01:25 AM
    brookeleigh
    How can I stop being Narcissistic?
    I guess I realized I might fit the description of a narcissistic, but I hate those kind of people. My boyfriend told me I never ask stuff about him and its always about me. No wonder he goes crazy. HELP and give me advice! What do I do!
  • May 17, 2010, 02:25 AM
    JK191

    You don't have to stop being narcissistic, you could however try to take an interest in your boyfriend's life.

    If you do want to stop, just stop telling yourself you're the best thing that ever happened to this world or that you're drop dead gorgeous because believe me when I tell you that there are quite a lot of people much more beautiful/smarter/(insert another quality here) than you.
  • May 17, 2010, 04:05 AM
    KBC
    Narcissism is a fact of human life, we are ALL(to some degree) narcissistic, we MUST believe in ourselves,have some kind of positive strength in which we believe we are different,unique,'superior'

    The limiting and understanding the extent we express that behavior is the key to overcoming it.

    Can we(I) accept that we(I) have faults?

    Do we(I) overcompensate for these faults by trying to be more than I really am?(belittling others to look better in our own eyes)

    If you read a little of Sigmund Freud and his analysis of (his perception) of narcissism,you might begin to see where you fall in this behavior, and possibly make some changes in your behavior towards others.

    On Narcissism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    History of narcissism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
  • May 17, 2010, 08:01 AM
    Jake2008
    Being narcissistic is a trait normally associated with most people to some degree, although I wouldn't label it 'narcissistic' as in a psychological problem that prevents you from having sincere and meaningful relationships.

    Is it just your boyfriend who thinks you are narcissistic?

    I suspect that it may be more of a communication problem, and instead of addressing his lack of ability in that area, he makes it your problem.

    If he is feeling that his needs are not being met because you do most of the talking, try to engage him in conversation. Ask about his day, ask probing questions if he says he had a hard day. Think about conversing with him in such a way as to draw out his participation more. Is he much of a conversationalist to begin with? How does he communicate with others.

    Don't be so quick to judge 'fault' with yourself here. Communication is the key. When it is mostly one sided, sometimes the problem lies with the non-communicative one.

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