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    suman1234 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 22, 2009, 07:50 AM
    Attention seeker
    I get attracted to so many people.. and sometimes I simply crave for attention. In my college also, I used to be quite a bit studious. I find it quite hard to interact with others. Although many times people do approach me but I become nervous and I am not able to talk to them. I feel as if I have got no topic to talk about. Soon the people start turning away from me... What should I do?
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    Nov 22, 2009, 10:52 AM

    Are you feeling inferior to others in any way! If so, please chuck that thought. No one is inferior to you, and no one is superior to you! You are unique in your own way, and you have your own God given gifts and talents. If people are coming to you to talk - then what does it mean? You are needed by someone... just answer their questions... think of them as one of your own close buddies, and you'll get the conversation flowing... everyone is human Suman... don't feel shy... there is nothing great about the rest of the humans for you to back off!
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    Nov 22, 2009, 11:13 AM

    Watch the news, follow college sports, you can talk about any subject
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    Nov 22, 2009, 11:38 AM
    Just try it that's all u can really do
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    Nov 22, 2009, 04:59 PM

    Become an interesting person, by doing interesting things, and paying attention to people.
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    Nov 26, 2009, 02:45 PM
    Instead of worrying about what YOU'RE going to talk about, talk to the people you meet about THEM.

    Take the focus off yourself and ask people questions about themselves. Talk about the weather, the news, the nice clothes they're wearing.

    People love to talk about themselves so develop the skill of asking questions as part of the conversation. Be genuinely interested in other people, their thoughts and their experiences, and soon you'll find that conversation comes easily.
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    Nov 26, 2009, 02:59 PM
    Have considered joining a club?

    Something like drama... I know that might sound extreme for someone who becomes nervous,but steping a little out of your comfort zone and acting out the personality of a character might help.

    Debates,for the same reasons.. but look at what's available... is there something you feel strongly about.

    Help out at a homeless shelter or food shelter... it may help you overcome your nerves if your helping someone else at the same time.

    Take up a life coaching class.
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    Clough Posts: 26,677, Reputation: 1649
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    Nov 26, 2009, 04:01 PM
    Hi, suman1234!

    Do you ask people questions about themselves and what they might be doing presently and in the future, please?

    Thanks!

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