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    Why is my 25 year old so selfish, and disrespectful?

    Asked Mar 8, 2012, 11:58 AM 21 Answers
    My 25 year old acts like a 17 year old. I think she should be told to move out but I'm afraid she will end up on the street. I want her to know I'm here to help if she needs it but she has to grow up.

    She has a job, we let her use our car to get to and from work. We have told her a number of times to not smoke in it, and to watch her speed. We know how fast she is driving (145). She was given three warnings then my husband cut her off. Told her he would address the matter in a month. Her response was a lot of yelling and screaming, big deal, I dropped an ash, blah, blah, blah, and ending with go f%^* yourself.

    I don't understand her. We charge her a small amount of rent a month and she can barely make those payments, can't see how she can afford her own apartment. My husband is threatening to move out to his own apartment. (he says I can come too) she will destroy our house.

    I have asthma and have asked her not to smoke in the house. She smokes in her room, and thinks if she lights candles, has a fan going and makes it so I don't smell it it is okay??

    She just doesn't get it. How can I make her grow up? I love her with all my heart please don't be too nasty with any comments about her, or us.

    Last edited by talaniman; Mar 8, 2012 at 07:01 PM.
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    Jun 3, 2013, 08:12 PM
    She is autistic. I was seeing a girl like this who completely selfish and could see no wrong in her own actions. Autistic people vary a lot and have different problems and areas that appear to be missing from their brain. They would appear completely heartless too.
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    Jun 3, 2013, 08:18 PM

    Quote Originally Posted by richie2256 View Post
    She is autistic ... They would appear completely heartless too.
    No, autism does not seem to be her "problem."

    Not true -- I am married to one and have a son who is autistic, plus count several autistic people among my friends. "Completely heartless" they are not.

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