My 29 year old daughter has stopped speaking to me, claims I have ruined her life, but is good friends with my husband, her dad, who consoles her, all while he and I are still living together and I help to take care of him because he is disabled. She came back home to live, but didn't want to follow my rules and so I asked her to leave. We have always h ad problems getting along as mother and daughter. She blames me for all the unhappiness in her life.