How true your situation is
My niece could have written just about word for word the relationship she has had and tried for awhile to have a friendship with her mother, my sister. It's such a shame when they won't acknowledge the things you do for them and it's never good enough but when someone else does something they are rated as an angel and a good person. My niece finally came to realize she will never have 'true' mother that will call you, want to go out and do things together, give you an ear when you need to talk, comfort you when your hurting and all the good things that make the word "MOTHER" a title a lot of women don't deserve because they make no attempt to be a mother or try to learn how to be that person you would want a mom to be. I'm so ever grateful that my mother (also my sister's mom) was a loving, caring, open hearted woman that you could trust with anything and she'd try to help you understand things not ridicule you and call you names. I wish she was still here today-God rest her soul.
Maybe you have to make a decision for yourself that might be in your best interest even though it will hurt but you'll stop hurting too.
Jan
You know the old saying "you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family"
I know how it feels to love someone, like a mother, and have them treat you worse than they would treat a stranger. My advice: do what she asks and get out. The situation sounds unhealthy for all involved. You need peace, get out and get some peace for you and your husband. Find a new church and let God sort it out for you. He can, and will you know. Get some therapy to get this relationship in perspective, maybe you will have to accept that you and your mother will never be close or even friendly and then seek out the support of another woman whom you respect.
Everything will be okay, but stop letting people use you and treat you like garbage, that is not God's will for your life.
Take care
My mother acts like a bill collector instead of a mother
I need an opinion... my mother has lent me money for some computer programs and we get our cell phones together so I deposit mine in her account every month to pay for mine and pay her monthly to pay her back for my programs. Lately, my work has been slow, and I will not have the money until next week to pay her for my cell phone and she came to my house today and said Why am I doing this to her and she wants her money for my cell phone or I can cancel it she wants it out of her name and doesn't want to help me anymore... I have never done anything negative towards her, and even offered for her to live with us since her husband died. She treats me worse than a bill collector and I am her daughter. She has called me before if I have been a day late and also harassed me like that... like I am doing it on purpose.. I don't have money a lot in the bank, but she has a lot of it in the bank from her mother, my grandmother who gave her everything, so it is not that she needs it. Don't get me wrong if I owe it I don't expect someone else to pay it, it is how she treats me. She helps her one older grandson with money yet tells me and my sister that she has no money, when we know she does. Everything she ever did for for us she brings up all the time that she did this and that for us. I can't take the way she treats me anymore.