I am 47, I have been chewing my nails since I was six years old. I started biting my lower lip when I was five, and when my dad confronted me and told me to stop biting my lip, I immediately (in a manner of speaking) began chewing my nails. I believe chewing my nails is a fearful physical response to a dramatic or traumatic set of circumstances, which as a child I had not the power or ability to defend against myself-my father was abusive. Since Ive grown, I have recognized that I chew my nails when I feel I am being overpowered by something or someone and that I cannot defend myself. This includes things major and miner; things like a utility bill I couldn't pay, going to court, letters from the IRS, sliding down a snowy hill in my automobile and even attempting an elaborate dinner-I am not much of a cook. I can say that standing up for myself is extremely difficult and I do try, but I usually defer to the self destructive mechanism of chewing my nails because at least that, "I" can control.
