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  • Mar 2, 2011, 08:39 PM
    jocelyn1317
    Feel so hurt. Feel like there's nothing to live for anymore.
    My boyfriend just broke up with me it was my first long term relationship my first love he just stopped liking me and I found out he cheated on me. It hurts so bad my world feels like its falling apart. What should I do he was my life. I put my all into the relationship
  • Mar 6, 2011, 04:45 AM
    amicon
    I think you start moving on with your life and spend time with friends and family.

    Breakups are very often painful,but you will get through this by keeping busy and finding your own two feet again.

    He was a cheat-you deserve a lot better than that!
  • Mar 11, 2011, 06:14 AM
    ajstone
    Love isn't love without pain, I guess. It's not a reason to give up on love though.

    I was in your exact position last July, and I'm still healing, but it no longer hurts to be awake.

    Like Amicon says, you need to try to move on- and right now I bet that sounds bloody impossible. Your heart probably still is hurting physically and emotionally, and part of you really wants to know everything he's doing, even though you're furious and hurting and broken.

    My advice is to remove any form of contact with the guy - delete his phone numbers, email addresses and facebook(block him if you have mutual friends), and Don't rush into another relationship. You'll just find yourself comparing your new man to the old one.

    Go out for coffees with friends, don't drink alcohol, and feed yourself properly. Sounds odd but it really helps. Focus on your work, but allow yourself the time to heal- cry if you need to, but don't let it rule your life. Eventually there WILL be one day where you suddenly think 'I haven't been thinking about him all day! How weird... ' and it's a milestone towards recovery.

    I'm still on my way to healing I guess, but it's getting better every day. Hope it does for you too.

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