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    talaniman Posts: 54,327, Reputation: 10855
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    #41

    Dec 26, 2007, 12:52 PM
    Marriage after 3 months of knowing someone is nice in the movies, but a disaster in real life. Ask me again in a year, when you really know the guy your having sex with, and that's not a good idea either. The proof; your both talking crazy. Him for asking, and you for listening.
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    #42

    Dec 27, 2007, 10:27 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Brandy_Lyn
    I'm 16 years old and last night, my 20 year old boyfriend who I have been dating for about 3 and a half months asked me to marry him. The time we have spent together has been phenomenol and we both feel like we have been dating for at least a year. I, of course, responded to his question with a "yes". My question is, is it the right thing? He makes me feel so amazing and I have never been this close to a guy. I have had sex with him and we talk on the phone every night for at least 3 hours. So I don't think that all he wants is sex, but i am not sure and have been thinking about it since he asked me. Was my decision the right one?
    I would say no, even though I'm sure I know how he makes you feel. I was in that position too. Although in my case, we dated for 4 years and got married right out of high school. Even though we are still together almost 10 years later, there is always that part of us, wondering what it would be like with someone else (and not just in the physical sense) I believe it's just the human nature in us... but u know what, if it's meant to be, it will be another year down the road, etc. So while I say no to the marriage right now, it can't hurt just to continue to date him and make sure he is what your heart really desires. Good lucky dear... I know it's a difficult and scary position to be in!
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    #43

    Jan 16, 2008, 09:52 AM
    I know that you have heard this B4 but I have been there and done that. I was 17 and I thought I was in love with a 25 year old. He told me a bunch of things, that he is in loves me and that he wants to marry me and have kids. We talked on the phone for hours on end, and all of that. Then one day she showed up at my moms door and just said that he is moving in with me because he loved me sooo much and can't stand to be without me, well mom didn't like that so much so we moved out into this apartment, and I thought that we were happy, but he never got a job, and was talking to this woman that soon to find out was 29. Well that went on for about 1 week, then he came into the bedroom one night and said that I don't love you any more and that I am moving this onther girl into the house at the end of the week, well my name is on the lease not his, he said he didn't not care. She never moved in and we stayed friends for about 3 months, he NEVER GOT A JOB AND NEVER Paid A BILL. Well the rent was all ways late and I soon left and moved back in with my mom and dad, I didn't care where he went or what he did with who ever. As I was leaving he told me that he was only using me for my credit so that he could move his lasy friend out of HER mothers house.
    And that girl is my point you never know. What till you 18, move in together, get to know how he lives, that is the most important thing right there, I have I now man now and we are ify right now. And I marred him... lol
    I hope that you learned something form us.
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    #44

    Jan 26, 2008, 09:20 AM
    Just enjoy the early stages of the relationship I have been with my partner since I was 15 I'm now 19 and we live together I am engaged but you need to live a bit together first don't rush things. Trust me when you live with some one all the little habbits start to come out and until then you don't know some one 100% lol enjoy the exciting first time things before you get to ahead of yourself. If you have to ask the question "am i ready?" then I think its obvious you are not sure of it. If you really do have deep feelings for each other then why rush.
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    #45

    Jan 26, 2008, 04:02 PM
    Well, lets see, How much prison time can he get for having sex with a minor? 10 to 20 sounds about right. Yes, you are way too young. I was 20 when I married and I had less than a 50/50 chance of making it last. We did, I don't know how but we are still together after 42 years Monday. At 16 you are going to fall into and out of love maybe 5 more times before you find Mr Right.
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    #46

    Feb 22, 2008, 08:09 PM
    Let your mom be your guide. Also your dad's voice should be heard as well. Take your time to think and listen to your parents or at least your closest relatives.
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    #47

    Feb 22, 2008, 08:14 PM
    I just found out in my state they changed the law recently and never let parents know.
    A 16 year old can be with a 20 year old guy.
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    #48

    Mar 11, 2008, 09:36 PM
    If you really love him... you can be engaged for a couple years before you get married(etc.) ,then you will have no doubts!

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