I went to the Philippines in April of 2008. I went there because I wanted to someday retire there. Instead I met a woman. When I returned back to the US, I continued to communicate with her, and went back again to be with her in her province, and meet her family. It all went OK, but I spent a bunch of money, because I was there for 50 days.

Anyway to make a long story short, I'm now married to her for 6 months now, after again going there for another 50 days for a wedding. I opted for a cheap wedding paying just $400 USD. However on that last visit, I purchased a lot, and built a small house on it. Now I'm back in the U.S and unemployed.My financial situation here is bad thanks to this lousy California economy. I'm 55 years old.

Now my Filipina wife is always asking me for money to do things for the house. I wasn't able to complete the house while I was there, and so when I returned here, I had to continue sending more money, so that the house was livable for her, and her daughter. I keep pleading with her about my current financial situation but she is relentless in asking for what she wants.

I'm sick of this arrangement. It stinks. Building that house was a big mistake, but when I say that, she thinks I'm just treating her like she is cheap. She says "did your first wife have to live like this?". Its true that in the beginning the house wasn't fit to live in, but now its OK, but she is still being very picky. When I met her she was living in a tiny barn with all of her family. Now she wants me to send her more money for interior doors inside the house. Why is that important? If I continue to send her money I will soon find myself homeless in America.

Will I be able to come live in my home in the Philippines, when I'm broke. I think not. I do love my wife, but is this really all worth it? How much the price of love?? The house so far including the lot is just $3,000.00. We got a great deal on a lot. Still though, that's a lot of money when you don't have much money, and that's not including the thousands of dollars I sent her before we were even married, and all money sent since then. The sad thing is that when I tell her I have little money, she doesn't really believe me I think.

The only problem really is my crummy situation here in America. My money is going down very quickly, and I have no guarantee that I can even return to the Philippines again anytime soon. The other thing that I'm really fed up with is talking to her in the Internet café. They are a big joke. The mics don't work, the cams don't work, they have worn out computers with letters faded off the keyboards, and they have the nerve to charge people to use their shoddy equipment. Its absurd! I spend all this money helping her, and when I was there the last time, they had brown outs everyday for hours on end.

After all I do, I can't even live like a human being, while I'm there. The DVD player doesn't work because it's a piece of Chinese dog dung. Can't sleep at night, because its very hot with no fan, thanks to the electric being turned off all night by some sneaky little Filipino down at city hall that wants to act like god. The food is great though. I love the local Filipino foods, and I drink a grand bottle of red horse everyday. I will tell her that she cannot have the doors inside, and I will cut her allowance down to 5,000 pesos per month (approx $110 USD), or else get a divorce.

I'm in the USA, 10 months, out of 12, without even being able to have sex with her. Hahahhahaha am I a schmuck or what?



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What exactly is your question? What can we help you with?

When I was looking at homes there (laguna province) they were sitting around 44k average. If you can't afford 3k for a house in the phils, you have no business committing to anything. You do realize that banks fire financing at you faster than pre-crash American banks right? As long as your wife is on the mortgage you can pretty much get a loan for anything.

She obviously though she had a better life in store for herself. I don't know how old she is but I assume she is young. What do you expect? The reason they marry an older man is for stability. If she wanted somebody that couldn't afford a 3k house she would stick with a strapping 20 year old filipino lad.

LOL 110 a month? Did you think that you were buying a goldfish? You are from America, cable costs 110 a month. Really, you did not think this through. You probably thought that you could send her whatever, and she would be happy. While you are living a relatively luxurious lifestyle in the US and you can send her table scraps and she will say "thank you, I love you long time".BTW, everything is luxurious in the US compared the phils, South Central LA is more luxurious than most of Manila.

I feel bad for her. Even if she might be a scammer. It is guys like you that give us foreigners a bad name. If you can't afford to get married and commit to a woman where you know you will have to drop some cash, then don't. 400 dollar wedding, 2k is considered average in the phils... and that is what THEY usually spend... the poor people.

You don't want to get her doors lol. HERE, they are like 60 bucks at Home Depot... HERE... in expensiveville. Hahaha. Fail.