Yes, a single women alone with a man is wrong, it is just a matter that in some families they are less strict just like christians are in US. So the poster should not go into details of her relationship, more so, the man needs really to come and talk to her parents.

I truly hope you talk to your parents about this. You CAN request that your parents consider him as a suitor. And many Muslim parents DO allow it. Especially in Pakistan, where the laws are not as strict as Iraq (they are strict, but not as much)

Assalalmu Alaikum.

OH and Ramadan Mubarak!

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Originally Posted by muslimahan

Hey..... Thanks for ur opinion its realy made me consider sharing this relationship with my parents .... Maybe they think I have noone in mind that's y they are considering proposals. I will try and speak to them Thanks :)

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I'm glad that you're considering telling your parents. They can't choose what they don't know about.

I'm not saying they'll accept the boy you choose, but if they don't know he's a possibility, they definitely won't choose him. You have nothing to lose, and possibly a lot to gain by telling them your feelings for this boy. :)

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Originally Posted by Alty

I'm glad that you're considering telling your parents. They can't choose what they don't know about.

I'm not saying they'll accept the boy you choose, but if they don't know he's a possibility, they definitely won't choose him. You have nothing to lose, and possibly a lot to gain by telling them your feelings for this boy. :)

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And if I were the parent, undecided about the "boyfriend" and I found out I had been lied to I would not be very understanding.

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

You are incorrect about that. In Islam, you are not to be alone with any boy without a chaperone. If you have been doing this, that is haram.

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Hi... I've not been alone with him anywhere we always together in public in front of everyone as we don't have physical relationship between us. I know it haram and I do ask forgivness from Allah as he is the forgiver

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Originally Posted by muslimahan

Hi ... I've not been alone with him anywhere we always together in public infront of every1 as we don't have physical relationship between us. I know it haram and I do ask forgivness from Allah as he is the forgiver

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Then ask your parents forgiveness for hiding this, tell them how you feel, ask the boy to talk to your parents about his intentions to marry you, and hope that they agree.

That's your best option as far as I see. The only thing your parents can say is no. But they could say yes. Right now they have no idea that this boy even exists, so he's not an option. Make him an option. Talk to your parents. :)