I am taking steps to improve the situation I'm in. It is not an excuse for failing, if it is the reason for failing. The reason why I failed, is what I described. Now, you can blame me for having the weakness that I Have with organization but that's stupid. I'm not to blame for that. I'm aware of my weakness. If I'd have known what they'd do then I wouldn't have relied on them.

The reason you failed is your own actions... NOTHING anyone else did or didn't do. Time to act like an adult and face the facts. YOU are the reason you succeed or if you fail in life... nobody else.

You're just dishonest. I didn't say that by talking to people in university I figured out evryhthing and can make a fortune. If you look at the context, you said you've hired people before and can see I'm a BSer by which you obviously mean that I don't know the subject of my degree. You said how on earth would I know that people on the degree weren't well prepared for the workplace, I said by doing 2 years of the degree and talking to people on it. I never claimed to know "ALL" you are silly and just not having an honest discussion. And memorizing a vocabulary list? What on earth has that got to do with anything. Have you done that? I haven't. Not being able to use words? Are you saying I can't use words? Is this the extent of your hiring skills? Testing peoples' vocabulary!! I said you should know their field and question that. You seem to be proving that you're useless at hiring people and just BSed yourself and got lucky.

I know more about my situation than you joypulv, and I was doing well on my degree. I got As in some modules people consider hard, I'm not an idiot like what you write suggests. You don't need to tell me that there are people with aspergers that can do stuff. Sure there are things people can do and things people can't do. I'm not somebody that is useless with everything and just has a skill in numbers. I know what I can and can't do better than you know what I can and can't do. Don't assume that I'm not working on improving my situation. It's not a quick process.

I am not a fool like what you write suggests, or if I am a fool, I am not such a fool as to treat you people as some kind of authority on what I do or do not know in my field. You think I should dance around trying to prove my knowledge to you? Who do you think you are? And what have I or you to gain from it? Maybe you'll gain self esteem. But I won't, I'm not a child.. You seem to be very patronizing and wrong in your assessment if you think I should prove myself to you. For what? Who are you, what is your expertise?

Sounds like you're just jealous and incapable of seeing from another position.

How do you know how easy it was for me to do the degree with or without living near uni?

Tell me what's the difference between a reason and an excuse?

It's an excuse if regardless of that I'd have failed the final year. What do you know to make that judgement?

I feel for you, to an extent. I used to have a friend like you (used to). She was extremely privileged her whole childhood and half of college. Her parents told her they would pay for her education and then her senior year, they (as you and she would put it) "pull the rug from under her". And boy, what a life-ending event that was for her. Truthfully, though I could hardly stand the childish, spoiled rants she would have about her "unfair" parents-I could kind of understand her point of view. She was raised in a world where everything was handed to her, never taught the value of a dollar, never taught a THING about responsibility. When her parents realized she was so spoiled and needed to grow up-they took everything away from her (they paid her rent and tuition and gas money and cell phone bills at 21 years old... sheesh). Well, no wonder people like you are so delusional. Yes, delusional. You were never shown responsibility and when the real world hits you in the face it's a big deal.

Well, guess what? It's reality. Now you need to take care of yourself. Sink or swim. So, what are you going to do about it?

You have no right to sue your parents. You may be mad at them and feel entitled to something but legally they owe you nothing. So, throw a tantrum like a petulant child or STAND UP, brush off your pants, and move on. You're an adult now so prove it to yourself and your family.

I understand you have a disability, so use the resources you have. People with disabilities have a lot of resources in education and you should take advantage of every single one.

Stop whining. It does nothing to resolve the situation you are in now and it certainly does nothing to gain anyone's respect-most of all your own. If you respected yourself and had half the faith in yourself that you try to exude, you wouldn't be having this conversation with us right now.

Carry on!

I have read this thread over and over, but yet am unable to understand the question.

How have your parents "pulled a rug from under your feet" and somehow impeded you in your efforts to complete your studies?

By paying for a flat you didn't use? So, if you didn't use it, presumably you lived somewhere. Were you incapable of studying where you were living? Do you imagine you could only have studied effectively somewhere else; a place which they refused to let you have? Again, I don't understand what you are trying to say.

And you say something about your grandfather attempting to help you financially. Again, what does this have to do with the price of potatoes in Peru?

What country do you reside in?

Cauin, your grandfather supplied money for you to go to secondary school and to have housing off-campus and out of your parents' home. The financial matters were arranged through your parents, notably, your mother.

Your previous housing closed and you needed new accommodations. Your parents found you an apartment that was not where you wanted it to be. So you didn't move out of their home.

You had to commute to school and due to your own inability to cope (slightly autistic isn't an excuse when you get into higher education and life) you failed your classes and didn't graduate. Now you blame your parents for you not getting a job because you have to explain why you didn't get a degree.

I highly doubt your inability to get a job has as much to do with your lack of degree as it does your lack of coping skills. In a job, you can't ask your employer to tell you in advance every move he/she is going to make. As someone who claims to have a disability, you have to work harder to cope. You have to work on ways to be more organized. You have to develop skills that it appears you are lacking.

Your housing and your educational expenses were supplied as per the agreement. You didn't do your part.

Really... You are clued in to the fact that everyone is laughing AT you right now... not WITH you?

And it's clear what a success YOU have turned out to be... can't even finish college and talking about suing your own family because you are a loser.

And you have the balls to say that to me... who has already achieved far more than you have ever dreamed of. I've lived on the Italian Riviera for several years... where I could look out my window onto the beach and Mediteranian Sea. I could still be there if I wished right now. In fact, I will be there this summer. You will be exactly where?

I guess its true... when you aim for the bottom, you won't be disappointed when you get there.

You know... if someone like you... and there is a type... crossed my path at a job interview... you'd never make it past the first interview. Because I take great pleasure of weeding them out. And even if you was smooth enough to get through the interview... you wouldn't last long. Its really not hard to get rid of someone after they are hired... union representation or not. Even IF they can do the job. Stir up trouble and EVERYONE is aiming to take you down. And you will make mistakes, everyone does. Only what will get overlooked for others... won't be overlooked for you when they want a reason.

No... it is an EXCUSE.

The REASON you failed is because you did not do what you needed to do to pass.

Your PARENTS have nothing to do with that, unless they were holding you prisoner in their home.

I seriously hear from students like you EVERY SINGLE TERM. It's NEVER their own fault that they failed---they always blame it on someone or something else.

Guess what? It IS your fault. You have to take responsibility for that before you can grow up.

By your reasoning, the "reason" why you are not the super rich like Donald Trump is because you didn't do what you needed to do to do that, so you are to blame, it's your fault. The flaw in that reasoning of yours, is indeed, it's true, that if I had done certain things, it'd have worked out, and if you'd done certain things, you'd be the next donald trump. But you have to be aware of what you can and can't do, and take that into consideration. And I did.

If it was so easy for you... WHY didn't you finish it??

Here's my input...

In your original post you said, "and even going for a job interview would be a nightmare because I have to relive it explaining them why I don't have a degree"...

I can tell you one thing for sure, Cauin, I know that if you have 10 degrees and go into an interview explaining why you are unhappy with things and you blame your parents/family like you have here, YOU WILL NOT BE GETTING ANY JOB, OK?

I think everyone here has really tried to help you. Take notice of the information presented and spend some time reflecting on you as a person.

Good luck!

Mark

By your reasoning smoothie, the "reason" why you are not the super rich like Donald Trump is because you didn't do what you needed to do to do that, so you are to blame, it's your fault. The flaw in that reasoning of yours, is indeed, it's true, that if I had done certain things, it'd have worked out, and if you'd done certain things, you'd be the next donald trump. But you have to be aware of what you can and can't do, and take that into consideration. And I did.

Lame... lame... lame.


YOU are a major success exactly how... where, doing what exactly? Because until YOU have actually gotten your own place and supported yourself... you are in no position to be judging who is and isn't a success.


Its YOU that's been whinning about everything being your parents fault when its YOU that's screwed up everything that's been handed to you on a silver platter.

That's reality... its not reasoning. Life is reality based. You don't REASON with physics, you don't REASON with life... you deal with it on its terms. And you are NOT in any position to dictate those terms.

Bill Gates can to a degreee, Donals Trump can to a dergee, but they earned that right via their success. YOU however have earned none of that... you take what you are offered and you make what you can of it. Maybe you can create a Lemonaide Empire... or you can sit there crying about what the hell you are supposed to do with the lemons life offered you.

The summary of that story is YOU are responsible for your choices... make the worng ones you have nobody to blame but yourself.

Please tell me, cauin, how you know you are an Aspie. I haven't seen evidence of it in this thread.