I am 6 weeks pregnant and the father is my ex boyfriend. I reached out to him 3 different times to see how he felt about this and what his interest would be in terms of involvement with his child. He has been quite verbally hostile and told me to die and other choice things. What time frame needs to pass, during which he is willfully uninvolved, before he is considered to have abandoned his child? If he decides to be involved past this time frame, does he regain any legal rights? If his rights are considered terminated, is he liable for any child support? And if he starts to pay child support after he has terminated his rights through abandonment, does he then regain legal rights? Do I have a time frame in which to start proceedings regarding child support? Thank you.

To avoid any future arguments, get him to take a paternity test when your baby is born... just for his information. Then when it proves that your baby is his, you have every right to take him for all he's worth. Take him to court and demand child support. This is his baby. You didn't get like this by yourself. If you don't want to do this, then maybe you should talk to his mother and see if she can't talk some sense into him. He needs to realize that life ain't going to be handed to him on a gold platter. You know, most guys get really freaked out when they are about to become a father and just panic. They go stupid, and all they really think about is the money, the stability, and their party life. He needs to grow up. Tell him to suck it up buttercup, because you are having this baby with or without him, and that's that.
You should also call a local law firm and talk with them to see what they say about all of this. It will be good news for you I think:)

Best of luck:)

Hi,
Before you do anything else, go to a local group near you; such as your Magistrate, even the Sheriff's Office, or someone who can tell you the laws regarding this in your State; maybe a Social Services department.

You don't have to tell anyone any names, but just find out what the law is for your State; in regards to your boyfriend's responsibilities. For all you know so far, he might not be repsonsible for anything; it's up to your own State's laws covering this.

Best of luck,
fredg

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Originally Posted by megan1234

I am 6 weeks pregnant and the father is my ex boyfriend. I reached out to him 3 different times to see how he felt about this and what his interest would be in terms of involvement with his child. He has been quite verbally hostile and told me to die and other choice things. What time frame needs to pass, during which he is willfully uninvolved, before he is considered to have abandoned his child? If he decides to be involved past this time frame, does he regain any legal rights? If his rights are considered terminated, is he liable for any child support? And if he starts to pay child support after he has terminated his rights through abandonment, does he then regain legal rights? Do I have a time frame in which to start proceedings regarding child support? Thank you.

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You have to have the child first before you file for child support. If it proven that he is the biological father after determining paternity, and he is ordered to pay child support, then your ex has the right to seek involvement in the child's life and the courts may provide him some legal access to the child. But you are asking a lot of questions, so what is your real quesiton? In theory, you don't have to put his name on the birth certificate.

I agree you need to find out the laws in the state . Also you should start keeping a record of all your bills you incur during the pregnancy. After the child is born is when child support usually kicks in they are not going to make him pay for a child not born with no real proof it's his. I say keep the bills cause when it's proven that the child is his then he may have to pay for half of the expenses. You cannot force him to be in the child's life but he can be made to pay for the child he helped create.

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Originally Posted by bryden1401

I agree you need to find out the laws in the state . Also you should start keeping a record of all your bills you incur during the pregnancy. After the child is born is when child support usually kicks in they are not going to make him pay for a child not born with no real proof it's his. I say keep the bills cause when it's proven that the child is his then he may have to pay for half of the expenses. You cannot force him to be in the childs life but he can be made to pay for the child he helped create.

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First off welcome to the site bryden... :)

Please pay close attn to post dates... this question was asked over a year ago, when you answer such questions it "bumps" it up to the top... and pushes other recent posts down.

You can't milk him for all he is worth you can however receive child support. And not all men go crazy when they have a child. You are talking about the boys you mess with.