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    xXforgottenXx Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 17, 2008, 09:27 PM
    My girlfriend hates spending time with me!
    Ive been dating this girl for almost 2months now at first she was an awsome girlfriend but now she just likes spending time with my (guyfriends) and start flirting with them... one day in a party I almost cried for her and she only pays attention to me when I'm sad but when I'm OK she just go hang out with my friends and when we talk she gets mad and makes me feel so responsible for everything and I always do stuff to her I help her on everything she needs I treat her like my queen but still she does the same thing over and over again. I don't want to lose her I love and would do anything for her. But I dontknow what to do!! Help me please!
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    mishelly3 Posts: 300, Reputation: 16
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    Oct 17, 2008, 09:36 PM

    Do you rellay want some one that uses you for your friends and then flirts with them in fromt of you. Your better then that, and you deserve much better then a person who treats you like this. You need some one who treats you like a king. Time to let her go and move on...
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    Oct 17, 2008, 09:43 PM

    Let me just add that I'm not ready to be dumping anyone right now... but thank u mishelly3.
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    JBeaucaire Posts: 5,426, Reputation: 997
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    Oct 18, 2008, 12:07 AM

    Fine, don't dump her. But if you don't completely change your behavior (which you shouldn't HAVE to do, but you don't want to look for a healthy g/f, so this is all we can work with), if you don't change your behavior around her she is going to continue to lose interest.

    Go for the bad-boy image. I know, it's not you, but you won't go look for a healthy girlfriend/relationship, so this is all we can work with... so stop being such a nice guy. Give her your attention but be more "fuhgetaboutit" aka gangster with her.

    Your doting/helpful/puppydog approach isn't bearing fruit, so try this instead. Some girls need a bad boy, someone SHE has to work to keep YOU interested in HER.

    Or, you could look for a healthier relationship with a girl who is... I don't know... INTO you, maybe? I know, I'm talking crazy. Forgive me.
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    Oct 18, 2008, 03:21 AM

    Time to move on before you get obsessed with her.
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    Oct 18, 2008, 04:00 PM

    You don't really have to change your image. Just try to be more relaxed. Crack jokes, smile a lot, let her list and only her LIGHT flirting go. Sometimes all it takes is a little trust and to relax.
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