I've been with this guy for almost 2 years now. It started great! Then he started hanging out with a different group of people. He changed, into a completely different guy. He isn't the guy I fell in love with. But I'm still in love with him.

A couple days ago he called me. After going a day without even speaking, he stars yelling at me saying, "your too contolling and you act like my mom and I'm going to do what I want to do now, whether you like it or not, and if you dont like it then you dont have to be with me!"

I admit, I am a bit contolling at times. I just like him to call me if he decides to go out, so I don't catch him when he's gone and keep calling and calling over and over and stressing myself out cause I don't know where he's at. And the group of guys he hangs out with, doesn't help. First of all they don't like me. And they always want to be around girls. I never hang out with them for the fact that they don't like me so therefore I don't know what they do when I'm not around. And none of them have a serious relationship with anyone so it doenst really matter to them what they do.

My question is, how do I stop being so controlling, without worrying myself to death? I need to know or I'm afraid I'm going to lose him.

Now that Summer is here he doesn't want to do anything with me. How can I change his mind?

He says once I stop trying to control his life to call him so we can be together again. So please help so I can make that call.


Thanks so much
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Guys detest the idea of a girl calling or texting them too much... they find it manipulation.. though it may not be true... so go slow in everything you do with respect to wanting him back. Respect him when he says he doesn't like a particular behaviour in you.. he'll then like you more. You'll lose him for sure if you don't get what he's saying...

I think that his friends might be a bad infulence in your relationship. Don't get me wrong its important for guys to have friends, but, the type of friends you have has a lot to do with how he has changed. They might be telling him that your trying to control him or maipulate his life and his actions. I know this is what it seems but to us girls it is not. It is a simple act of respect and courtesy to give a "courtesy" call to us. I know that's what WE think. But to guys it seems like they are on check. And if he tells his friends or his friends find out about this all hell will break loose and they will get teased. Lol. I have ben around lots of guy friends and I know first hand what they are ike and what they say. Its pretty funny at times to me, but, this is when it is not in my own personal relationship of course. I suggest just letting him be for now. He just wants to do the guy thing with his buddies. Which if you say they neevr really have a relationship, then neitehr will he. Guys like to bond and he just wants to have his freedom right now. Once he gets tired of partying or hangin with the guys then maybe he will want a relationship again. But you can't force him to "not hang with teh guys". It only makes you look bad.
good luck =)

The best thing you can do is nothing. Don't pursue him in any way. Spend time with friends, doing things you enjoy, having a great life without him. There is nothing you can do to make him want to be with you. In fact, the more controlling you are, the more you will turn him off. If he cares enough and notices the vacuum in his life because you are not part of it, he will return. (And if he does return, continue having a life of your own that's away from him. In other words, don't depend on him for your happiness. Make your own joy.)

I am a 44 year old woman, and let me give you the same advice I gave my daughter if at anytime your man wants a different life style let him have it. You are not a foot stool you deserve to have a life as well without worrying. If your man does not respect you do not let any man run over you he knows that you are going to be there and not say anything as long as you have him you will pretty much let him do as he please. Give him the attitude that you don't care let him think you are busy and having fun as well. But by all means DO NOT LET THIS MAN BRING DOWN Yourself ESTEEM, you are a beautiful girl if he won't or can't give you what you need find a man that will and move on. Keep Your Head Up .

You are who/what/how you are.

You just need to find someone who will love you for who/what/how you are and someone who you'll love for who/what/how he is.

Dearest, can you provide your birthdays including year of birth so I can give you some input. No obligation of course.

Dearest, can you provide your birthdays including year of birth so I can give you some input. No obligation of course.

Do birthdays really have an influence?

Convince me!

Thanks!