bumblebee1
Jun 8, 2007, 09:51 AM
I've been with my boyfriend for going on 8 years. I'll try to make this super short and leave out unimportant details. He's never liked giving oral sex to girls, he just doesn't like it. He used to give it to me occasionally now it is not at all for the last few years. I love it so much when he does it, and it hurts me that he refuses. I don't "like" or "enjoy" giving him oral sex, but I enjoy his response and I like to make him happy. I give him oral 3+ times a week to estimate.
Our first year or so together (keep in mind I was 16 at the time), I faked orgasms almost every time we had sex. I admitted it to him in our 2nd year, and never did it again. Since then, his oral has gotten fewer and fewer to none at all, and same with any sort of foreplay given to me. I feel like it is my fault because I have tried so many different things but I have NEVER had an orgasm during sex with anyone. He says it takes to long, and it's a turn off. I try my best! It really sucks never getting foreplay, and I'm always giving it to him every time. I've tried a lot of different things to make giving foreplay more pleasing... shaving down there; wearing hot clothes... none of it seems to matter. I even told him that if there was more foreplay I would probably have an easier time orgasm durning sex. He doesn't care at all! Hope this doesn't sound to raunchy but sometimes the most I can get from him are a few kisses while I get myself off, but even that is so rare its hardly worth mentioning. Its like a huge hassel for him to do anything for me.
We have good sex, but once he gets off it's over. I feel like I'm missing out, and I've tried talking to him and all he can say is "I don't like doing it" or "I'm not doing that". I understand he doesn't like it... but jeez, he doesn't seem to like doing ANYTHING to me except sticking it in...
Our first year or so together (keep in mind I was 16 at the time), I faked orgasms almost every time we had sex. I admitted it to him in our 2nd year, and never did it again. Since then, his oral has gotten fewer and fewer to none at all, and same with any sort of foreplay given to me. I feel like it is my fault because I have tried so many different things but I have NEVER had an orgasm during sex with anyone. He says it takes to long, and it's a turn off. I try my best! It really sucks never getting foreplay, and I'm always giving it to him every time. I've tried a lot of different things to make giving foreplay more pleasing... shaving down there; wearing hot clothes... none of it seems to matter. I even told him that if there was more foreplay I would probably have an easier time orgasm durning sex. He doesn't care at all! Hope this doesn't sound to raunchy but sometimes the most I can get from him are a few kisses while I get myself off, but even that is so rare its hardly worth mentioning. Its like a huge hassel for him to do anything for me.
We have good sex, but once he gets off it's over. I feel like I'm missing out, and I've tried talking to him and all he can say is "I don't like doing it" or "I'm not doing that". I understand he doesn't like it... but jeez, he doesn't seem to like doing ANYTHING to me except sticking it in...