View Full Version : The guy holding my hand and the guy holding my heart aren't the same?
cutie08
Jun 2, 2007, 07:55 PM
I really like my ex still and I have a new boyfriend and he's so sweet and all, but I'm still just so in love with my ex and it makes me feel bad for my new boyfriend.. I mean I told my ex that I still like him and everything but the thing is is that he has a new girlfriend and so yeah I can't really do anything about it and I don't know it just all hurts because I think about hima ll the time and there's nothing at all I can do everything reminds me of him and ughh I don't know
Please help me find something to do about all of this
Rockabilly1955mama
Jun 2, 2007, 08:19 PM
It seems as though you both have moved on (being that you both have new people in your life). You just need to talk to him, and he needs to talk to you. So you can see if you two are on the same level.
aaron80
Jun 2, 2007, 09:17 PM
Who broke up with who
Jiser
Jun 3, 2007, 04:52 AM
Personally I think you shouldn't be in a relationship right now. You need to get away and be single for a while and work out what you want.
o0FreeBird0o
Jun 3, 2007, 06:48 AM
it sounds as though you didnt have time to heal from breaking up with your ex. thats not your fault, but you should be on your own for a while so you can sort your head out, get over your ex, move on, and then start dating.
your boyfriend should understand, but you need to talk to him and be honest with him.
Free.
shygrneyzs
Jun 3, 2007, 06:54 AM
You are not doing any great favors for your new boyfriend. You are actually using him, as you are not emotionally involved and cannot give your new relationship 100% of your time, effort, and care.
I agree with Jiser, you should not be in this new relationship. You need to back off, be honest with your new guy and tell him just how fixated you still are about your previous boyfriend. If this guy has any self respect, he will leave and not look back.
People who jump from one relationship right into the next one are not giving themselves enough air to even breathe. Another new relationship is not how to get over the old relationship. Can you say rebound? It seldom works. Because you have not taken time to figure out your own head, what went wrong in the previous relationship, dealing with what went wrong, and correcting or understanding your own behavior. You have not given yourself a chance to recover.
So do that now. Step back and analyze your life. Getting over your ex is your first priority. Which involves not contacting him - don't set yourself up like that. There are many other activities and parts of life that you can get involved in, and none of them involve getting a new boyfriend right away.
talaniman
Jun 3, 2007, 04:29 PM
You've had so many boyfriends, and exes I've lost track. Which ex are we talking about this time??
grammadidi
Jun 3, 2007, 05:22 PM
You shouldn't go out with anyone until you are totally over your ex.
Didi
Jiser
Jun 4, 2007, 03:40 AM
Why did you two break up?
tkdgal
Jul 11, 2007, 05:35 PM
Girl, I'm sorry, but lately you've been having to many heartbreaks and heartaches... you need to get away from boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, and try spending time with your family or something! Too much drama... try to relax!
lillypad1
Oct 22, 2007, 07:48 AM
Tell your boy you still have feelings for you ex;if he really loves you he will understand and wait for you.If not,that's his loss.
*~*lillypad1*~*