I signed up for a debt consumber relief group. But the calls are driving me crazy, they don't return my calls and now I'm getting notices in the mail from Lawyers thretening to sue if I don't pay. Has anyone had to deal with this before, I'm scared I'm not sure what to do, I don't have money to hire a lawyer.

You are suffering the problem of debt counseling programs, not everyone will participate. Chapter 13 (http://www.bankruptcycreditcounselors.com/law/) is like a debt consolidation plan but it is court ordered. You should speak with a bankruptcy attorney (http://www.directlex.com/lawyers/) about your problem. Most offer free consultations.