My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year, and I love her very much. We have a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship, and we communicate well. Recently, I told her of my fantasy of her performing oral sex on me and swallowing my sperm. She said that would be "gross," and has never brought me to climax during oral sex because she does not want me to come in her mouth. I perform oral sex for her, and I enjoy having her sexual fluids on my face and tasting them. We have discussed sexual fantasies before and have pleased each other very much. But she will still not accept my sperm in her mouth, My question is: what must I do or say to make her change her mind, to make her understand how much I wish she'd do this ?

First of all, if she is completely against it, why would you want to change her mind. We all have the right to say no to different things, especially sexual situations. Having said that, if she really wanted to please you she would not be so closed minded to it, especially just once. My advice, drop the subject and perhaps one day she may do it to surprise you. If she doesn't and you really want her to, then re-evaluate your relationship and decide what is more important to you.

good answer^^

another technique that she cn use is you tell her when you're going to ejaculate-she takes it from her mouth and using a well lubricated palm lightly caress and hold your glans (like it's in her wet mouth) and stroke it while you in her palm-it feels nice! And she doesn't get the "gross" sperm in her mouth.

another way is just let it go and get over it-she does every other thing a guy could want.

True answer, but I wish more of you guys did that

Let her do you and don't tell her you are about to , just kiddng. My friend this is a fight that we rarely win. Women are programmed at an early eage that oral sex is nasty. No woman brags about swallowing or catcing sperm in their mouth. So many women simply find this disgusting. Prostituters won't do this, so what I am trying to say is that usually if a woman has determined or been brainwashed into beliving that this is disgusting that is the end of it. It is not worth the fight.

Sorry but if she does not want to, you can not "make" her do it,
And honestly should not try, you should respect her feelings and not try to push limits the other is not willing. So you do it, great, that does not mean she is suppose to.

Be grateful for what you have. Don't push your luck, if she isn't into it then let it be. If she is completely against it then there isn't much you can do to change her mind.

Um... you shouldn't try to change her mind.

If you think it's okay for you to try to change her mind on this, then it's absolutely okay for her to try to change your mind about receiving anal sex from a VERY large male who hasn't bathed in 3 weeks or brushed his teeth in a month. (Gross, huh? How do you think SHE feels now?)

On another (somewhat unrelated) note... ejaculate DOES sometimes taste pretty nasty. Guys who have that little fantasy should watch what they eat.

If she doesn't want to swallow your semen, then you should accept that and move on. You can't force it.

I am amazed at the number of people who think you should in some way continue trying to get her to "change her mind". If you really respected her you would accept what she has told you. Just because you shared your "fantasy" doesn't mean she has to fulfill it. And it doesn't mean she doesn't care about you... Yes, there are a lot of women who dislike men to ejaculate in their mouths. It is a preference. As well... as a woman who has done both men and women... there is a difference. A woman's fluids are much thinner and you often just get a taste not an entire mouthful. There is usually a milder taste than men's semen. Semen also is thicker, stronger taste, and if taken when a guy comes... shoots into the back of your mouth. Can be very gross. As Synnen stated... if she tried to change your mind and get you to accept anal sex with another man... would you be okay with it? Sex should ALWAYS be consentual. And if you respected her you would let this go. Fantasy is the optimal word here. Not all fatasies get to become a reality. Cathy

E3317... I disagree with you, you make it sound like most women are pure little angels who frown upon sex, not the case, its all about prefference! (just my opinion by the way).
I agree that you cannot force her to do anything she doesn't want to do, you have told her it turns you on and she is still not up for it, that should be the end of it.
I might fantasise that there is me and three guys, a tub of ice cream and a swimming pool but hell I'm never going to do it, its all in the mind.
If both partners want to fulfil a fantasy then that's fine,there's no pressure on either part, but in normal everyday circumstances fantasies are left as fantasies.
To back up my disagreement to what E3317 said... I have never in my life known personally any woman who was "programmed" not to like oral sex, yes some have tried it and didn't like it, some don't like the thought of it, but seriously you made it sound like we were robots pre programmed to be discusted by anything sexual!
It all depends on the woman, how she herself feels about certain things, if you are compatible sexually it has nothing to do with anyone telling us it is wrong to give head!
Personally I could do it for hours and be very content.
I don't really know what to suggest to you, as you have done your part by telling her, if she isn't willing to do this one thing then just let it go and concentrate on the things she will do, I don't know, maybe talk about 69 where you will both be on the receiving end, then just let it go and try to accept that not everyone wants to do every possible thing in bed.

let her do you and don't tell her you are about to , just kiddng. my friend this is a fight that we rarely win. women are programmed at an early eage that oral sex is nasty. No woman brags about swallowing or catcing sperm in their mouth. so many women simply find this disgusting. Prostituters won't do this, so what i am trying to say is that usually if a woman has determined or been brainwashed into beliving that this is disgusting that is the end of it. It is not worth the fight.

Hey hun, do me a favour and have a try of your own semen! ;)
Let me know how yummy it is okay? :D

The thing is, it's semen! It's not like the delicious filling of a yoyo!
It's nasty!
BUT- Sometimes, it can taste all right. But how many guys do we know that eat nothing but fruit and vegetables?

I don't think you're gong to get anywhere preaching your girlfriend to taste and admire your semen. Especially when you probably have no idea what it tastes like, unless you have already tried it and you dig it?
:)

Have a little compassion mate! She will love you for it.
If she tells you she's keen, tell her you're going to indulge in pineapple for a week so you taste nice for her! Lol
Females just taste better so it's easier for a guy to enjoy then a girl would with a moutful of semen!:cool:
We don't ejactulate semen, come to think of it, I don't think we ejactulate anything noticeable.. :confused:

Women do ejaculate, but only when they have a G-Spot orgasm.

(Also: I am a guy, I am a vegetarian, so fruit and vegetables are pretty much al I eat. And water :-P)

Women do ejaculate, but only when they have a G-Spot orgasm.

Hmmmm... I've had a g-spt orgasm and I don't believe I've enjaculated enough 'liquid'.. to compare it with semen. Lol

Some women do, some women don't.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year, and I love her very much. We have a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship, and we communicate well. Recently, I told her of my fantasy of her performing oral sex on me and swallowing my sperm. She said that would be "gross," and has never brought me to climax during oral sex because she does not want me to come in her mouth. I perform oral sex for her, and I enjoy having her sexual fluids on my face and tasting them. We have discussed sexual fantasies before and have pleased each other very much. But she will still not accept my sperm in her mouth, My question is: what must I do or say to make her change her mind, to make her understand how much I wish she'd do this ?
Its gross all right to ejaculate inside her mouth, its unhealthy and she might get bad breath for a not so good oral hygiene

Like others have said, you can't change her mind.

I was the same way as your GF. And just in the past two years I've been married I decided to try and swallow. I've only swallowed twice. I let my Hubby come in my mouth and he wants me to swallow, but I don't. He used to get mad until I told him I would swallow every time if he tried his sperm. He didn't want to, so I told him, Well TO BAD baby, I'll swallow when I feel like it.

If you keep insisting she will stop preforming oral and that's worse. So just enjoy what she gives you. She might change her mind, she might not. But don't try to change it for her.

:)

Hey, it's easier to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission. Just do it.

If you love your partner, your happy with what she does, and not worried about what she doesn't do.

First of all you could not get your thngs happen forcfully, if she could enjoy to do the thngs defenatally it will serve your purpose but if jnot it could make a big trouble to you doing these thngs

This is going to sound gross as hell but it worked for my wife early in our marriage. Tell her if you blow in her mouth she can kiss you right away and put it in yours... then if you get the nerve to swallow she might see its not so gross. She saw you make an effort to impress upon her its not so much a big deal. She might be far less apprehensive. Trust me I did not particularly like it having never done it before either but the fact I was not asking her to do something I wasn't willing to do made a great impression on her.

I think that each in a couple should respect the others opinion. BUT believe me if a woman is really in love with u she would do anythink to please you as long as it is something only between the two of you!
And to set things right biologicaly sperm is as viscous and as clean as the woman's fluids! Sperm is tasteless at most of the times! It can also be slightly sweet if you eat some pineapple the day before! The woman's fluids thought not always have the same appearanse. They can sometimes be less viscous and have a bad odour...
So my option is you canot forse her but this should give you a message. A woman who adores you should not feel discussed by this. Would she liked it if you felt the same way about her??

Well fix what you broke you may be on to something, but I say that women are programed to think that oral sex is nasty because most of them lie about it. Even if they admit to having sex with someone they will never own up to doing oral sex. Our society has caused this.

Her initial reaction is to not want to, just like most kids don't want to try a new food, they assume they won't like it till they tried it once or twice.

Its not disgusting, but the initial couple times it might be. Like I commented on earlier, my wife had that initial reluctance to do it.. then when we were visiting relatives overnight the opportunity to just run to the can at 3 am didn't present itself, and I popped the question to her then. There was the Blueball frustration of doing nothing or present her the option I gave her. Which was she went half way... came up to me and I took care of the rest. I think we only had to do that twice (and no I am not into that sort of thing) before she saw that if I was willing to do it to show her its not something really disgusting then she took it upon herself to start doing it... there were times she ran off to the can to get rid of it but those got less and less to now she has no problem with it at all. After all I don't run off to rinse out my mouth after taking care of her the same way.

Some people have the same hangups with anal... they just assume they don't like it and swear there is no way they will do it. Before they really give it a chance. I'm not known one single women that gave it a few tries that did not like it. The first once or twice might be the hardest till one learns to relax then they discover the pleasure both of them can share in this.

Dam son, my ex used to love doing that, in fact it was her idea, I have to tell you, its intense at the end but yea I'm going to miss that.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year, and I love her very much. We have a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship, and we communicate well. Recently, I told her of my fantasy of her performing oral sex on me and swallowing my sperm. She said that would be "gross," and has never brought me to climax during oral sex because she does not want me to come in her mouth. I perform oral sex for her, and I enjoy having her sexual fluids on my face and tasting them. We have discussed sexual fantasies before and have pleased each other very much. But she will still not accept my sperm in her mouth, My question is: what must I do or say to make her change her mind, to make her understand how much I wish she'd do this ?
The main thing you have to understand is how men and the media have exploited oral sex. A female never feels loved or cared about doing such a thing. If a woman performs it, it shouldn't be done in a rude or rough nature. Let her know you care about her and you want to please her. Point out to your girlfriend that you perform oral for her and you enjoy it because it makes HER feel good. Be honest with her and explain that you're hurt by her not wanting to please you also, however you can't force her into it.

I have a question to all the ladies out there: why are you so opposed to semen in the mouth? I'm not saying your wrong to dislike it, I just don't understand. Is it the taste? The concept? Please explain.

I'm a guy, but my wife initially told me it was the concept... and like kids with certain new foods the automatically decide they don't like it before they really give it a try. Wife now enjoys it. Like I said a while back.. we were visiting and spending the night elsewhere and running to the bathroom was not an option for her and I has horny as heel, told her just do it come up and give me a snowball and I'll swallow it. Just so I could get off. Only had to do that a couple times and she just started to swallow herself without me asking. Once in a while she would go spit, but those have dwindled to almost never.

Don't try and make someone do something they don't want to, you've told her you want it OK, leave it at that don't bug her about it because if you do it could end in a big fight. She may eventually want to do it just to please you.


Also you could watch porn together as a preamble to sex (porn with bj) and she could see its not so gross, but if its still a no leave it be don't be an arse.


Oh and americangayboy I think they don't like it because if they haven't before it may make them feel dirty etc

Depending on a guy's diet, semen can taste AWFUL.

Also... if he ejaculates heavily, it tends to have a choking effect, especially with no warning. Semen down the lungs and out the nose HURTS.

I don't have a problem swallowing for my husband... but the warning I used to give guys was that if he started ejaculating in my mouth, with no warning, I had the reflexive action of biting down, without warning.

Eep biter

You know I'm all for oral sex but does no one find it weird that we would never put urine in our mouths yet we quite happily snack on the place it comes from lol

Some people do like urine in their mouths (I don't happen to be one of them). That aside, oral sex is hot, I love it and don't mind (most people's) semen.

Hey I agree its hot but that was a thought I was having out loud, here's another, no girl of mine has ever known the answer to this and neither do I, why is it called a "blowjob"?

I've heard the word originated from this asian practice with blowing through straws... I don't know if that is even half true so please don't be offended

Yea you would think they could rename it to something better like a "suckjob", I mean blowjob is almost an ironic name.

Lol for the first two years in high school I wondered what it was like for a girl to blow on me lol boy was I in for a surprise :)

Suckjob sounds lame. I prefer to say bj or head

yea maybe but lets look at ths with more detail.

Blowjob - does the girl/boy blow on the penis? Maybe a little but to get the desired effect the penis has to be inserted into the mouth and then a vacuum created around it. Blowjob is not the name for this, that's like making a tractor and calling it a ducati or saying battlefield earth is good - LIES

head or giving head - how exactly are you giving head? Did you murder someone and steal their head and say hmmm one day I'm going to give this to someone. Giving head is stupid stupid name, "oh baby can i give you head" "no thanks, the one my parents gave me still works fine" lol

Suckjob - ahhh now that is a name that does exactly what it says on the tin, besides if someone came up and said would you like a suckjob id say hell yea, that crazy girl was offering me a second head!!

my random thoughts

How about oral

You're a funny guy zooropa, but we'll have to agree to disagree.

"oral" is too scientific. Slang should be raunchy!

Thanks american, I try my best.

Hmm yea oral is good, eating out is an appropriate name, kind of, I mean it works but blowjob doesn't.

Oh and as for the original poster (whom ill call pat) you should be lucky she puts your penis in her mouth let alone your sperm, jeez kids these days, don't know they're born :)