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browneyedgirl78
May 30, 2007, 10:35 AM
I was just starting to see someone and told him I would rather be friends if he was seeing other women. He basically told me I could trust him and he wouldn't hurt me. I did. Then I found out he was indeed seeing other women, many other women. I got upset, very very upset. He apologized, wanted to slow things down. I tried. I rarely see him now but he doesn't want to be physical because he says he doesn't want me to hate him and I am someone he wants in his life for a long time. What the heck is going on in this guys head? I should walk away... shouldn't I...

incognito
May 30, 2007, 10:41 AM
He said to trust him and that he wouldn't hurt you. He broke your trust and hurt you. Find someone who will keep your trust and won't hurt you.

If him breaking his promise of not seeing other people isn't enough reason for you to leave him, I don't know what is.

NJGirl07
May 30, 2007, 10:44 AM
Sounds like this guy has Commitment phobia... How long were you dating him for.. and did he treat you like absolute gold in the beginning? They usually do that... then when they see you are someone worth living their life with, then slow down and run.. it's their own issues.

diya
May 30, 2007, 11:13 AM
This guy is no more interested... as simple as that... take the clue and enjoy life with friends who care and love you.

NJGirl07
May 31, 2007, 05:50 AM
Commitment phobia is one thing... but he is outright lying to you... If he explained to you that he had commitment issues because of something in his childhood I would tell you to tell him he needs to work on it... otherwise just move on... He could just be a player.

You should read some books: "He's just not that into you" and "He's Scared, She's scared"... They both helped me in reading some types of men!