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decejohnson
May 30, 2007, 12:58 AM
I have been with my ex boyfriend for all of my high school life. We have did everything together. I mean the teachers of the school would give information to one of us to give to the other instead of mailing it to the parents. We both hang out in the same group of people. My friends are his friends and his friends are my friends. We are each other best friends and we both can rely on each other for any and everything. He was the only thing that made my life happy and without him my life is gone. 2 days ago he told me that he didn't want a girlfriend right now and I have been crying my eyes out and have been drunk the whole time. Do you think there's hope for us to get back together?

Clough
May 30, 2007, 02:20 AM
You are at an age where relationships can be on and off. It is a trial stage for learning who you are and what you want out of life.

Your life is not gone without another person being in it as a significant other! Part of the thing that attracts people who are mature and have realized what they want out of life, is the fact that each of them considers themselves to be complete in themselves. In other words, they do not need another person to be a complete person.

You ex-boyfriend is also trying things out for his life. Give him the space that he needs and wants and see what happens from there. But, I wouldn't get your hopes up. If you get back together, you get back together. If not, then just move on. It is okay.

You will be fine. There are lots of fish in the sea to catch. If it doesn't work out between you and him, then I am sure that you will find someone else as time goes along.

About the getting drunk thing. DON'T! You provide for yourself a false sense of reality when you do that. Water seeks it's own level. It's a basic law of physics. It's the same with people. If you go down the slope of getting drunk, then you set yourself up for other people to be attracted to you that also like to get drunk and have a false sense of reality.

Is that what you really want? Are you in control of the drinking, or is it in control of you? Serious questions that I would ask yourself if I were you. You do want to be in control of your life, don't you?

You have everything in your life to look forward to. Your additional schooling, meeting other people to whom you might be attracted to who might like and believe the same things that you do, making plans for your career, etc.

Mrs
May 30, 2007, 04:11 AM
First of all stop with the drinking, it doesnt take it all away, it doesnt make it better, it makes it worse.
He may have realized that he is too young to be settled into a long term relationship, he might just want to be free for a while, see him friends on his own, have a bit of fun being single.
That isnt a dig at you, im not saying he didnt have fun with you, but its a big world out there, and hes young, and it sounds as though he has spent his high school days with you.
I would give him his freedom, he doesnt sound commited anymore, and if his heart isnt in it its not worth persuing anything with him right now.
Maybe see your friends somewhere he wont be, then it will give him a chance to miss you, absence makes the heart grow stronger after all.