There's this guy I work with, when he first started I didn't find him attractive. The more I got to know him though the more attractive he became to me. Only attractive... I didn't like him. I didn't find myself thinking about him outside of work or anything. As time went on we found ourselves making excuses to be in the same room and we went to lunch at the same time. We would sit outside and talk. Anyway that went on for a couple of months and then we kind of moved outside the workplace. We started texting each other, calling, emailing.. etc... one thing led to another and we slept together. Many times! People at work started talking and gossiping about us so I told him that we should probably keep our distance in and outside of work. So for a while we did but it started back up again a few weeks later. He started being distant with me though after that. He didn't talk to me as much, didn't answer my text messages and so on and so forth. I got tired of being treated that way so again... I told him we should keep our distance and only talk about work related topics. He totally stopped talking to me all together. Our jobs require us to communicate with each other but he stopped. He started going to lunch with this other woman... and when I say WOMAN I mean she's 30 years older than him! Yes, it made me jealous! I know first of all I should have never hooked up with a co-worker but it's kind of too late. I know more than likely I don't really like this guy. It's probably just me being jealous because I'm not getting his attention. There's way more to the store but I think you get the point.

My question is... how do I handle this situation in a mature manner? I have been very angry with him and the times we do have talk.. I'm very short and a smartass! I don't want to be that way. I want to handle it the right way considering I didn't do that to begin with and just stay away. Another question... why do you think he's treating me this way? My fault probably but...

My question is...how do I handle this situation in a mature manner?

Behave professionally and don't air your dirty laundry at work. Smile through the pain and be polite and civil.


Another question...why do you think he's treating me this way?

Maybe because when you cut off the sex, there was nothing left of the relationship.

Ok I hear you... but what do you mean by Maybe because when you cut off the sex, there was nothing left of the relationship.

Are you saying he's mad at me for doing this?

Or are you saying that now that he's gotten what he wanted he has no reason to talk to me anymore?

I think when you become sick an tired of being sick an tired you will change your outlook on your life not his. Also remember I have little to no clue what I am talking about most of the time.

Lol... thanks

One thing that I can definitely suggest is to not get so angry that you vent your anger to OTHER coworkers. Never a good thing to gossip about HIM to THEM, know what I mean?

And as for the rest, let me get this straight. You 2 had a little fling, gossip started so you separated for a bit, then you began a fling again, but then all of a sudden he stopped talking to you? I just want to make sure I understand it correctly before I answer

Yes that's correct