marge1303
May 22, 2007, 01:42 PM
Hey, This is my first post and I found myself searching for some help and someone to talk to.
I have been dating this guy for about a year now, and we met while working together (it was both of our first jobs out of college). It was a very competitive sales job, very stressfull and commission only. When we began dating I found several messages from his x-girlfriend as if they hadn't completely broken up until he found me. After about 6 months of a serious relationship I changed jobs in order to have our space, knowing we could not work together forever. I spent weekends with his family as he did with mine. We were very serious- he had been there for me through a rough year (My best friend died in a jet ski accident). It really made the feelings more intense. He had moved here specifically for the job, while I am from the area. Because we had been seriously dating from the minute he arrived he found himself with no friends 6 monthes into living here.
Right around the time I switched jobs he began becoming distant, claiming he needed friends and needed to get things consistent at work. He was really unhappy here only having one friend (me). I understood, as I wasn't sure what I would have done if I were him. I gave him his space slowly... it took a few weeks to get used to it, every so often I would and still did get upset at not seeing him as often or talking to him.
Previously we had spoken about marriage and moving back to his hometown. Throughout the good times of the relationship he told me I was the one, I was not the one to bring it up (although typically the girls are!). I really felt like Wow I had found the one! Throughout the entire "break" he has reassured me I had nothing to worry about, he will come back. He has sent me messages saying don't worry I know you're the one for me.
More recently he has made friends- quite a few girls- which some Im comfortable with some Im not. Over the past weekend I suspected him to be cheating with one of these girls. I called a million times (totally did the psycho girlfriend thing). Her car was out front his apartment, and she had a crush on him previously in the year. Now he is angry at me he said I needed to leave him alone for a bit, after he said this I told him what he had put me through was too much and I didn't ever want to talk to him again. Im just wondering is this way of making sure Im the one? Ijust don't know what to think about him anymore? I feel like he's changed and Im defending the old person he was.
Any Advice?
I have been dating this guy for about a year now, and we met while working together (it was both of our first jobs out of college). It was a very competitive sales job, very stressfull and commission only. When we began dating I found several messages from his x-girlfriend as if they hadn't completely broken up until he found me. After about 6 months of a serious relationship I changed jobs in order to have our space, knowing we could not work together forever. I spent weekends with his family as he did with mine. We were very serious- he had been there for me through a rough year (My best friend died in a jet ski accident). It really made the feelings more intense. He had moved here specifically for the job, while I am from the area. Because we had been seriously dating from the minute he arrived he found himself with no friends 6 monthes into living here.
Right around the time I switched jobs he began becoming distant, claiming he needed friends and needed to get things consistent at work. He was really unhappy here only having one friend (me). I understood, as I wasn't sure what I would have done if I were him. I gave him his space slowly... it took a few weeks to get used to it, every so often I would and still did get upset at not seeing him as often or talking to him.
Previously we had spoken about marriage and moving back to his hometown. Throughout the good times of the relationship he told me I was the one, I was not the one to bring it up (although typically the girls are!). I really felt like Wow I had found the one! Throughout the entire "break" he has reassured me I had nothing to worry about, he will come back. He has sent me messages saying don't worry I know you're the one for me.
More recently he has made friends- quite a few girls- which some Im comfortable with some Im not. Over the past weekend I suspected him to be cheating with one of these girls. I called a million times (totally did the psycho girlfriend thing). Her car was out front his apartment, and she had a crush on him previously in the year. Now he is angry at me he said I needed to leave him alone for a bit, after he said this I told him what he had put me through was too much and I didn't ever want to talk to him again. Im just wondering is this way of making sure Im the one? Ijust don't know what to think about him anymore? I feel like he's changed and Im defending the old person he was.
Any Advice?