MsKellyHill
May 22, 2007, 10:22 AM
On a one year lease that started back in February. My boyfriend, myself, and an old friend of my boyfriends.
The situation is not working out at all. She verbally agreed with us that she understood our lifestyle, and assured us it wouldn't be a problem.
She is now demanding we change the way we live.
We don't agree with her grievances, as we made it abundantly clear, this is how we live. We aren't even that untolerable! We don't throw ragers, we don't disturb her personal effects, or space, we don't eat her food, and other such typical roommate issues.
Shoot! I even clean up after her! I've done her dishes on numerous occasions, just cause I was sick of looking at the mess. If the dishwasher has clean dishes, I put them all away. She sets ours on the counter, or won't even LOAD our dishes. She has taken out the kitchen garbage once. She has never pulled the carts to the street. She doesn't take out recycling. All things that should be SHARED in communal living, that she never initiates authority to do.
We are all 28 - 29 year olds.
In fact, she is the oldest, and the only one without a steady job! She works four nights a week at a bar (she quit her day job), so now she feels it necessary to tell us to be quiet in the mornings while we are getting ready for work. We aren't even loud (no music, no screaming, no hair dryer, no arguing, no coffee making, and our alarms are barely audible), just your everyday run of the mill getting ready for work noise! She has expressed that she is a light sleeper, so we suggested getting earplugs. She has ignored our advice, on three occasions.
This morning, I faced a, "Please be quiet in the morning." statement on the mirror.
Is this necessary? Am I not allowed to get my hairbrush out of the drawer? Brush my teeth? Talk to my boyfriend?
Basically, this situation is not working, and since I am approaching her tonight, I want to know what my boyfriend and I can do.
We are all on the lease, however, she is the only one that hasn't signed it. Can this work in our favor?
The situation is not working out at all. She verbally agreed with us that she understood our lifestyle, and assured us it wouldn't be a problem.
She is now demanding we change the way we live.
We don't agree with her grievances, as we made it abundantly clear, this is how we live. We aren't even that untolerable! We don't throw ragers, we don't disturb her personal effects, or space, we don't eat her food, and other such typical roommate issues.
Shoot! I even clean up after her! I've done her dishes on numerous occasions, just cause I was sick of looking at the mess. If the dishwasher has clean dishes, I put them all away. She sets ours on the counter, or won't even LOAD our dishes. She has taken out the kitchen garbage once. She has never pulled the carts to the street. She doesn't take out recycling. All things that should be SHARED in communal living, that she never initiates authority to do.
We are all 28 - 29 year olds.
In fact, she is the oldest, and the only one without a steady job! She works four nights a week at a bar (she quit her day job), so now she feels it necessary to tell us to be quiet in the mornings while we are getting ready for work. We aren't even loud (no music, no screaming, no hair dryer, no arguing, no coffee making, and our alarms are barely audible), just your everyday run of the mill getting ready for work noise! She has expressed that she is a light sleeper, so we suggested getting earplugs. She has ignored our advice, on three occasions.
This morning, I faced a, "Please be quiet in the morning." statement on the mirror.
Is this necessary? Am I not allowed to get my hairbrush out of the drawer? Brush my teeth? Talk to my boyfriend?
Basically, this situation is not working, and since I am approaching her tonight, I want to know what my boyfriend and I can do.
We are all on the lease, however, she is the only one that hasn't signed it. Can this work in our favor?