When I was 16 I was in a accident & got £30000 which was but in a bank account for 5 years.I met this lad & got pregnant & my mother forced me to have abortion no 1 else knows,me & the lad split up,then a few years later we met up again & started dating by this time we were living away from home & I started dipping into my money only he thought id a lot more than what I had.it took us about a year to spend the money,we are married now with two kids but he still thinks I've money in bank & so do my parents,my dad is helping us to build a house & they all think I've the money to help,& now my husband wants to move home but my mum is so dominating she tells me to stay where we are that he won't get job etc,I know I'm going to have come clean but what's the best way to doit

Well tell everyone the truth, and if your dad is helping build you a house, this lad is a jerk for just wanting to move away after all the work your dad has is doing.

It sounds like both of you need to grow up ( but it sounds like you are old enough to already be) Everyone is acting like they are 15 and living at home with mom and dad, so you tell everyone the truth, first you don't have money secrets from your husband, she should have been aware from day one. And you are doing your parents a disservice, what if dad is expecting some money for what he is paying out?

So just tell everyone , get it over with

I agree with Fr_Chuck. You will feel a lot better once all of this is out. You need to tell them. This has gone way to far and it sounds to me that you could really start to struggle if this load isn't taken off your shoulders real soon. It will be hard at first, but just follow through with telling them, it will be better for all of you! Good luck to you.