I am in a serious relationship and I think that I'm still in love with an Ex. I just want an opinion of whether she is interested in me still. I broke up with this girl maybe 8 years ago and then she went away travelling. We didn't break up on the best of terms and that was probably my fault. However I did learn from my mistakes and I changed. Since she came back and we have again become best friends. She has had a couple of serious relationships and so have I. She is now single and I am still in a serious although long distance relationship. Last year my partner and I had a break and when I met my ex I told her that I really do like/fancy her and I want her back. She said that she liked me as a friend and that there is NO CHANCE of us being together in anyway whatsoever. Didn't like the answer but fair enough.
Shortly after this my partner and I got back together and we still are. Anyway my ex and I talked, chatted on MSN and texted and then we met again and just had a very nice evening out in the pub. The next time we met I invited her over for dinner and offered her a place to stay as I didn't want her going home alone late at night after a few drinks and she accepted. This night occurred recently and since my brother has moved into my flat with me and has the second bedroom, I said that my ex could have my room as she would then have her on bathroom as well and I would sleep on the sofa. After a very nice dinner and a few drinks (not too many), as she was going to bed she said that she would not mind sharing the bed. I checked a couple of times and eventually agreed (wrong I know) thinking that it would be purely sharing a bed. When in bed she rolled over to me and said that "she had every intention at the start of the night, before even meeting me, that she was going to get me into bed" and not in an innocent way. She knows about my current partner.
Anyway things happened and we had a good night. After everything happened I told her again how I felt albeit a little exaggerated due to alcohol, and she said that freaked her out a little (remember she already knew this from previous meetings) and again started saying that there is NO CHANCE and it was just a fantasy of hers. Again fair enough but even more confusing. She also said "I'm not saying this for us but you need to break up with your partner so you can sort yourself out!" She spent the rest of the night with her legs and arms wrapped around me, and her head on my shoulder. When I got up to go to work I gave her a few goodbye kisses and she had no problems kissing me back, she also rolled as far onto my side of the bed as possible and curled up in the blankets with her head on my pillow and went back to sleep and did not get up until about 11am or 12pm from what my brother said.
Anyway we spoke again and she said that there is NO CHANCE of getting together. It is nothing to do with my sexual performance as I have it in writing from her that I'm the best, most passionate and most experimental (and I know that she has had a threesome with another partner, something that we never did) she's ever been with and that I can always make her . I felt really bad because I didn't want to lose her over what I said and what we did so we ended up having a very long MSN chat. And she has gone from saying NO, Definitely NO CHANCE to she would judge a future situation at the time at which it occurs rather than on the past, but I need to sort myself (my head) out.
She said that there was no spark, but when I said that there had been in the past but we had quenched them she agreed. My brother believes that she has an alternative motive. I know that every time she looks at me her pupils dilate and I know that, that is a good body language sign. I want to know if you think she still has an interest in me or not, and any ideas on how to get somewhere?
This is a letter I posted on another site and received no response so I’m trying again although there have been a few new development. Firstly I’m no longer in a relationship, we are still friend but it was the right thing to do and no she does not know about that night. Secondly the ex concern in this letter has recently told me that she is now seeing someone although she still lists herself as single on a my space type site.
Please help!!

Well, first of all I hope that you didn't break up with your long distance girlfriend in hopes to get your ex back because from what you wrote it sounds as if she has made herself clear that the two of you are not getting back together. I hope you did it because you realized that she wasn't the right one, otherwise you may regret that decision later. But you must not have been that in love with her anyway since you were not faithful (assuming that you and she were exclusive because you said the relationship was serious). I agree with the ex. You did the right thing by breaking up with her to sort yourself out.

I realize that your ex slept with you and you are searching for other signs and body language signals to contradict what she is telling you, but she may have slept with you more out of comfort and familiarity, as exes sometimes do, more than as the beginning of a reconciliation, as you seem to hope. I know it is all confusing to you though. That's understandable. She likely still finds you physically attractive and likes you in some ways (namely as just a friend), but still you have to listen to the words that she is saying too. I don't know your ex. I can't tell you what her intentions are or are not, but perhaps your brother is onto something as he knows her? I would just advise you to be cautious here and not get your hopes too high for a reconciliation. You can try to get her back all you like, but based on what she herself has said to you (no chance, no sparks, she is in a relationship), you may be disappointed.

My only advice would be to maybe just continue to be friendly to her and see what happens (that is, if you can handle hearing about her other relationship and the friendship doesn't stop you from moving on if you must). I would stop pushing for a reconciliation too. That is not working. If you pull back, she may come forward, but that is never a guarantee. Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do.

She is 100 years beyond you in maturity, and is strong and free and does what she wants. You are confused because you take her free attitude, and liking you as a sign you are the one, factually your not, and she keeps telling you that. Do you listen? Hell no, you plod along being smitten and a little sex has you goofy for her. Wake up and see the reality, that what she gives you she gives to whom ever she chooses, and as long as she is single she is in total control, and you better get real or you will always be stuck under that control. That's your problem to deal with, not hers. You eventually will realise that everything good ,is not for you so enjoy the time, but get grounded in your own life. Don't be hurt, just accept her for who she is, and move along with your own happiness.

You are just a wimpy wussbag at the moment who is throwing himself all over a woman who's only concern is making sure she still has you on her leash!! 1 If you want to have any chance with this woman WAKE UP LOSER!!

Don't ever mention you want to get back with her again!! She already knows that, what ar you going to do tell her 0 times she already heard you mate!!

Tell her your not that interested in her now yourve met some new but nothing serious at the mopment your just getting to know her but things are looking up!! \\

Stop talking on MSN that's going to kill any hope yourve got!!

The only way you can get a girl like tgis is to tell her no that's when she comes for you most.

WHAT YOU AR DOINGAT THE MOMENT IS NOT WORKING Not NOT!!

Keeping doing it if you want and maybe you willl get in her pants here andthere but that won't last long she will have some other jerk soon and you will have no one and then she won't what you at all!!

Fix theb problem now and put her in her place or yourve got nNO HOPE!!

Good luck. DO IT NOW TELL HER YOUR NOT INTERESTED CUT HER OFF COPMPLETELY> IF I WAS YOU I WOULD TELL HER THAT YOU ARE GOING TO LEAVE HER ALONE SO SHE CAN CONCENTRATE ON HER NEW BLOKE!! SHE Won't Believe IT DO IT NOW!!

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