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devi4soundar
May 15, 2007, 11:37 PM
My boy friend has some peculiar problem. I think he had the feeling of loneliness from his childhood though he was born and brought up with 3 siblings. Even everyone at home shows care and love for him. But he has some kind of inferiority complex I think, for his looks,his behaviour. He has created some imaginary characters within himself. As far I know there are 3 boys and 3 girl characters. He feels very comfortable speaking with them. He feels they are better than human friends. He is so intelligent. He has come to a position in his 4 years of experience of which no one of his age can think of. He has good reputation in his institution. He has some good friends around still he never feels close to anyone. Our relationship started 10 months back. From the start we never had some common understanding. We used to fight all times. He expects me to be like his imaginary girl friend I think. He gets hurt often with me. So after 10 months he feels that he cannot live with anyone. He is happy with his imaginary characters. No one can keep him happy. And he tells that nowadays he looses conscience often. He goes to a state where he is not able to understand what is happening around. He says he hears all the 'things' speaking. He is telling his computer speaks to him when he writes an error program. His bike speaks with him, tree speaks with him. He is telling he is able to hear the voice. I think he goes deep inside his imaginary world so he is losing conscience and hears such voices. I want to give him confidence that people are there for him. I want to bring him out of his imaginary world and make his happy. I feel if he is left like this it will lead to some mental disorder for him. He is one intelligent person with high dreams. Is there any need to contact a psychiatrist and have some medications for this. Is this really a mental disorder... Please advise

cal823
May 16, 2007, 04:48 AM
I don't know much about physchology, but I think I know somewhat a little of how he feels.
Lately, out of my artworks, these four characters have developed, at first it was just art, but now they have their own stories, and they are representative of my inner self I think, they almost seem real to me, especially cal, who is blue haired and sort of represents me, and silas, who is red haired, and represents all the bad and depression and hate and anger that is trying to hurt cal, its gotten to the point where I'm afraid of silas, I think I'm going slightly down your boyfriends path, but I doubt id ever go as far as to think things are talking to me or anything like that, but I know what it is to invent someone and to have them have a realness about them.
I wish you and your boyfriend luck, hopefully soon one of the more knowledgeable people on this site will help you, personally I think you out of get him to talk to a counciller or something, and just support him, what he has is probably a mental problem, unfortunately, it is not healthy to loose conscience and hear things, its good that your with him, your care will be of great help to him, stick with him, you and him will be a happy couple oneday with this problem long gone, just have faith that it will work out okay, and be there for him, and try and find a phychologist.

Kattalover
Jun 15, 2007, 10:36 PM
I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist, but what you describe sounds like things I've read about psychotic disorders.

If there is any chance you can get your boyfriend to see a psychiatrist, please make him go! It sounds to me like he really needs help.

J_9
Jun 15, 2007, 10:40 PM
This sounds very much like schizophrenia. Let me guess... He was always a good kid, got good marks in school, etc.

He need to see a psychiatrist as soon as he can.

Wondergirl
Jun 15, 2007, 11:00 PM
I have a master's in psych. Get him to go to a psychiatrist, if you can. And yes, meds will help him get back into the normal world. The biggest problem might be to make sure he takes his meds when he should and at the right dose. Once he starts feeling good, he will want to stop taking the meds. A schizophrenic friend of mine hated her meds because they destroyed the world she had created and kept her from writing poetry. I wish you the best!

grammadidi
Jun 15, 2007, 11:05 PM
Yes, your boyfriend needs professional help as soon as possible. You don't say how old you both are, but I suggest you try speaking to his parents/family about this. They may know that he has a mental illness and can get him the help he requires faster. Just because he is very intelligent doesn't mean he can't suffer from different forms of mental illness. I have worked as a counsellor in the mental health field. I also feel it sounds a lot like schizophrenia and if it is, he needs to be put on medication. If you intend to stay with him then you will need strong support systems too.

Hope this helps.

Hugs, Didi

Marily
Jun 17, 2007, 06:29 AM
I think that maybe in his childhood someone has hurted him very badly and now he is afraid to get attached to people because he is scared to go through the same experience, but it seems that he is also very lonely so he decides to make some imaginary friends, friends that won't be able to hurt him in real life.

albear
Jun 17, 2007, 06:44 AM
Yea