K, so my ex and I have been friends for a long time now, and both of us have realized that we still have feelings for each other, but I have already taken her back once more before this. I think that she has a sort of routine that she goes though, and I don’t even know if she knows what she wants anymore. But every time I talk to her I get the feeling like there is some unfinished business between us, and I know she feels the same because we are like best friends, and we talk about everything with absolutely no problem at all, including this. I have told her that I wasn’t sure if I wanted to see if things would work out again, and no matter how much I wanted to, I would try to stay out of things with her until I was sue that it was what I really wanted to do. I said that the only way I would really be “ok” and conscience free about going out with her again was if she could get 3 of my best friends to tell me that it is a good idea, I did this because I trust that my friends can make a better choice than I can. I also told her that I thought we both needed some time. She and I talk a lot about how much we miss being with each other, but I still don’t feel right about it. Her friends even tried to convince her that it would be a good idea to be, friends with benefits. Not sexual stuff because I’m not into all that, but just to get the feelings out of our system. I really don’t think that is a good idea, mostly because I think that is a really low thing to do. But I’m starting to get really frustrated with things, my urges tell me to go ahead, but I don’t want to catch myself from doing anything that I regret. Help!!

P.S.(Sorry for it being so long, I know I ramble a lot).

First off, id stay away from friends with benefits. As far as I know it almost always entails "sexual" stuff, so I'm not sure what your definition is, but its quite possible it won't alleviate the feelings between you two, it will just make them grow, and most likely only for one person. That's where the trouble comes from.

As for letting your friends make the decision - that sounds a little off to me. Im sure you trust your friends, and it seems that your not trusting yourself so much at this point, but the fate of your relationship should be decided by you, not your friends. Im sure your friends don't know all of the intricacies of your relationship, thus couldn't understand as you do. Though I do agree that if you have any reservations, you are best to play caution...

but I have already taken her back once more before this.

I think that she has a sort of routine that she goes though,

and I don't even know if she knows what she wants anymore.

I would really be “ok” and conscience free about going out with her again was if she could get 3 of my best friends to tell me that it is a good idea,

She and I talk a lot about how much we miss being with each other, but I still don't feel right about it.
But I'm starting to get really frustrated with things, my urges tell me to go ahead, but I don't want to catch myself from doing anything that I regret. Help!!
When you break it down like this she doesn't seem to have anything to offer you. I think you need to just pull away because this “relationship” isn't stable and it isn't even a relationship built of trust, love, feelings, or respect. It's built on the fear of letting each other go without having another person to take the fall. That's why you've broke up but found your way back. It will happen again and again until either one of you just finally ends it for good. Why wait.

P.S.(Sorry for it being so long, I know I ramble a lot).
No apologies necessary, the more information the better for us to help you. That being said this wasn't that long, you should see some of the books I write.